How do you measure 19 years?

I feel compelled to write some reflections on the occasion of Oasis shutting down after 19 years, but it’s hard to find the right words.

I’m 46 now, and 27 when I started this site in 1995, so it seems like there should be some profound summation or insightful conclusion, especially when you consider that this site launched the same year as Amazon, and three years before Google.

But that’s probably why the right sentiment eludes me. The world has changed so much since then, and so much for the better, that Oasis no longer having a major role to play is cause for celebration. Not sadness.

Oasis countdown...

As of today:


Countdown Clocks

At that point, the site will become static.

What this mean is that on December 1 (or thereabouts), you will no longer be able to log in to Oasis. At some point after December 1, the site will come back online as a static record, but probably not completely intact.

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

I'm burning down his world

I'm burning his bridges for him. He shouldn't have made himself my enemy. While he was my friend I had an obligation to take care of him, but he decided he didn't want that anymore. So I'm cutting him off, just like I warned him I would if he ever hurt my partner again. Heh. Poor idiot... I don't think he realized I didn't mean cutting him off from me, or even just the support my family gave him.

I meant from everyone.

anarchist's picture

the silence

Entha and i went on another walk last weekend. He'll be celebrating Halloween with his girlfriend of course. That just made me feel bad all week, because I know that I will never be as important to him as he is to me. And even if somehow that is the case, I will never know. I'll only feel the distance of a casual friendship that makes me feel worthless, and somehow I sort of feel like I could have avoided this. Maybe I could have done something that would have changed the way things went but I was too afraid of the risk. Unfortunately I have no idea what that could be.

elph's picture

Church writes awful letter to gay man

I suspect this will become a "developing" story as it took place here in the U.S. (where?), but it had to be reported to us from the U.K.! The letter from the church is unconscionable; the response, magnificent!

http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/church-writes-awful-letter-gay-man-hi...

elph's picture

I'm From Driftwood

elph's picture

What if you had to come out SMART the way you come out GAY? | Out Smart

I think this ingenious, hilarious!

Dachshund_lover123's picture

Oasis will be missed

I think we'll all miss this website a lot. I hope that we can all find a way to vent some of our feelings with out oasis but I know it won't be the same. On the slightly bright side I may be switching therapists. You know that point where you tell everything to lets say a parent but then later on you are having a even harder time but it would be to awkward to tell that parent because they still think your a little kid? I started with my therapist when I was around eight so I think that scenario has happened. Also I joined a group and every friday we just get together and talk.


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