Silly Heteros

NormEWU's picture

What is wrong with strait friends? Maybe its just my strait friends. Take my best friend for example; She is one of my favorite people in the whole world, and I love her to death, but every now and again she will say or do something amazingly rude, or make some narrow minded assumption. There is a huge disparity there, something that we can't seem to overcome. On some level we just don't understand where eachother is coming from.
I grew up in a small town where I was completely comftorable with "strait" life, even when I knew I was gay, I was still a member of the community, still one of "them". Well, in the last 5 months I have been away at college and for the first time I have been living my life "out" in the open. Overall it has been an incredibly wonderfull and empowering experience, but as I become more comftorable in my new identity I find it incredibly hard to "feel" like a member of a greater community. Every now and again I will be talking with my friends and one will say something that, to them was not meant to be mean or demeaning, but to me I just find disgusting. These arn't bigots or homophobics they are nice generaly accepting people, they just have no idea of their utter oblivion. This wouldn't be a probem if it were not for two facts:
1. I don't have a large group of Gay friends.
2. I don't want to be one of those people who only have gay friends, or only have strait friends. Yes my sexuality is differant, but that is only part of the story, I would like to think that there is alot more to me than that. I have a question for anyone reading this: What do you do when a friend, or someone you care about says or does something that just absolutely boggles your mind, something that is contrary to everything you stand for?
Thanks.

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michael1111ca's picture

just some thoughts...

I posted a rant about my straight friends a few weeks ago.
I get stuck on it sometimes tho, because I can be really ignorant sometimes. More so than my friends can be.