Crossing the Desert

desert13's picture

Coming out is like taking a journey across the desert. I didn't come up with that, but it's the best image of coming out that I've ever encountered.

That's why Oasis is such a great name for this site. That's also why my name is Desert13. Well, well, well...

I used to go to sleep hoping for lucid dreams - I wanted to be able to act out what it would be like to come out, especially to Mom and Dad. Well, I never had that dream, but when I did come out to them the day after Christmas it was like a dream. The room was spinning.

And now, I've got to finish this desert journey. So many people at school just don't know yet...

I think a lot of them are idiots for not figuring out that I'm gay yet, but at the same time I'm quivering in fear, because there are ZERO (0) openly gay people at my school right now. (in other words, I don't have much of a support group). There is a strong anti-gay feeling among most students, even some of my best friends. So yeah, I'm scared. But I think tomorrow is the day. It's going to happen. I'm strangely excited, like I was the night before I came out to Mom and Dad.

"To the desert go prophets and hermits; through deserts go pilgrims and exiles. Here the leaders of the great religions have sought the therapeutic and spiritual values of retreat, not to escape but to find realiy."

-Paul Shepard

To the desert!

c.f.

Comments

Jazzer's picture

Good luck!

Coming out at school can be hard, that's for sure. I came out my freshman year of college (last year) in a town (near Portland, OR) and a school that traditionally aren't that gay-friendly. But then again, I came out to the people in the music department, so they really didn't care.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is start coming out to people that you think would have less of a problem with it and see what kind of support you can get from them. Afterwards, move on and start telling everybody else.

Support from friends really is a lot of help, and it is a tremendous comfort. Good luck, my friend. Let us all know how it goes.

Godspeed,

Michael

purplefish's picture

It's similar at my school. If

It's similar at my school. If your gay you don't exist, if your not homophobic you're gay and if your gay you don't exist. Well good luck.