I read a book awhile back. The title? I don't recall. The Author? I don't remember. [I'll find out later today and change this post to have that info] But suffice it to say that the subject of this book was group selection [which pardon my French is more or less BS] but it also had alot to do with conformity, and that made me rather sad.
Sad because everwhere I look there is something I do not see very often: original individuals.
This may have something to do with geographical location, but I've found that homosexuals are ever more conformists then heterosexuals. In terms of look, style, behavior and all around culture I find that the Gay community is more homogenous then the straight community. It makes me wonder.
Is conformity that important to us that we can stand no deviation? I'd like to think that homosexuals, having been ridiculed and ostracized in the past would be less conformists. The sad state of affairs, as I have so painfully been made aware of these last few years, is that after being unable to conform to the standards of society we have not disregarded the concept of conformity and praised individualism which we should have done. Rather we have formed a whole new community with its own standards of conduct and rules of behavior. Our gay community is just as enshackleing as the larger Community which we so despise. Both seem to look down on the freedom of individuals, and both are not for me.
My quesion is "does it work like this?:" during adolescence the drive to conform is at its most powerfull. As gay people we are unable to conform and we never satisfy that urge. So when we find others of like inability to conform we now realize that we can meet that urge to be like everyone else but in a different system with different rules. That may seem a bit Fruedian, but I'm curious as to what you people think about that.