Diversity Paper

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HELLO EVERYONE!! I have to collect some information on a class paper, so if you could please help me out with this, I will be extremely greatful! Feel free to send me a messege on my Oasis account, really appreciate your help;looking forward to this. Thankyou!

Some questions to ponder over:

- In what ways is your gender experience different from your own cultural upbringing? In what ways is it the same?

- Who are some of your positive female role models and what impact have they had in your life?

- What did you appreciate about your experiences and what did you find difficult? How would you do it differently?

- How does being queer effect your life? Would you have it any other way?

- What have you learnt from others (queers)?

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DiamondDog's picture

Some answers to ponder over:

Some answers to ponder over:

- In what ways is your gender experience different from your own cultural upbringing? In what ways is it the same?
My gender idea is different from what I was raised with. Even in the household chores. My brother was given things like taking out the trash, where as I got things like the clothes and dishes and cooking. There are familial gender expectations. I was sent to etiquette classes to become more feminine, etc.

- Who are some of your positive female role models and what impact have they had in your life?

A friend of mine, I worked with her on a summer play was so amazingly talented in both acting and writing I looked to her as a source of creativity. She was also unabashedly gay and taught me if you make yourself weak, others will see that. Carrying yourself with confidence makes you solid.

- What did you appreciate about your experiences and what did you find difficult? How would you do it differently?
I love dressing in drag, but more because being a man or a woman isn't found in clothing or hair. I am a woman. There is nothing a bottle of hairspray or pants can do about it. However, people do not like to have gender confusion as it seems to effect the most primitive thing about them. I wouldn't do anything differently.

- How does being queer effect your life? Would you have it any other way?

Wow...well, it made homelife really crappy for awhile. It made me appreciate the people I have loved so much more for the support they have given me.

- What have you learnt from others (queers)?
That you have to be out and strong to make a difference. Being in the closet might feel easier, but being out makes you a role model, and makes you something people can't ignore. The fact that I'm out and proud is a direct result of seeing someone I know so well in life that has shown me if you make yourself unshakeable, no one can ever knock you down.

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greyboi's picture

Um well...

"- In what ways is your gender experience different from your own cultural upbringing? In what ways is it the same?"

I grew up in a very homophobic environment where men were expected not to show emotion, had to engage in rough play and strongarm sports, and keep distant from others males for fear of being called a "sissy". You had to be a womanizer and a show-off to all the other guys.

I guess my experience was quite different in that I, despite outside pressures, got away with being sensetive and shy. Since I was a bit intellectual for my age, read a lot, and had computers as a hobby, I was percieved as "nerdy" and not gay for a whilte. This changed in middle school, when "nerdy" became almost synonymous with gay for the popular crowd. This made being gay (and a nerd) even harder, since nerds were afriad of the stigma of being mislabeled gay, so they a stronger felt a need to denounce gays.

I guess it's much the same in that I like football (only when playing with friends; varsity team stuff sucks for me, too much play and less fun), baseball (I was on the senior league team), and martial arts, and I have the stereotypical "straight-guy" image.

I always thought of myself as "boy", but I remember going through a stage during my pre-teen years where I had this obsession with putting vaseline on my lips and eyelids. It passed, but it really put me in touch with my feminine side, as far as beauty goes.

"- Who are some of your positive female role models and what impact have they had in your life?"

Alanis Morissette-- Her music gave me soalce and relief during the tough run of adolescence.

Loreena McKennit -- Her eclectic Celtic music inspired me to seek out the liberal and mystical elements of Christianity, which led to a total transformation in my theology.

Sherryl Jordan -- at the age of 13, this New Zealand author gave me courage in the face of prejudice with her inspiring book Winter of Fire, which I recommend to everyone seriously interested in fantasy fiction. She introduced me to feminism, at a time when I was a chauvanistic bigot. It was with her book that I discovered that prejudice comes in all forms.

Nikita -- She is only a fictional character created by French screenwriter Luc Besson, but her sense of freewill, persistence and feminine mystique have made me say "YOU GO HONEY! GIRL POWER!". Peta Wilson is a great actress and was a fine pick for the American TV series.

"- What did you appreciate about your experiences and what did you find difficult? How would you do it differently?"

Though it was quite painful and enduring growing up gay, I would have to say that it has been quite an eye-opener. If I had never personally been the subject of this kind of prejudice, I'm sure that my kind of environment would led to me becoming violent a gay basher. Instead, it has taught me to be thankful for everyday and to see the good in all people. It has also given me the chance to challenge stereotypes and change the hearts of many people who otherwise would have been tommorow's racist, sexist, and homophobic parents (that might someday even have gay children themselves).

"- How does being queer effect your life? Would you have it any other way? "

I don't know. It sure would make life easier. I'd be able to find a mate a lot quicker. But considering that my experiences shaped a lot of who I am, I'd say no, since I wouldn't be the same person I am today.

"- What have you learnt from others (queers)?"

(1)I've learned to accept people whose gender isn't that clearly defined. When I was severly homophobic, I was also a bit transphobic as well. Meeting some transsexuals and drag queens has been a learning experience. Drag's not my thing, but I admire those that are good at it.

(2) I've learned a new form of masculinity. Before I came out and went on the path of discovering who I am, masculinity was rather fake and an excuse for oppressing others who I percieved as weaker or "less than" to my stereotypical macho self.

(3) I've learned to have fun. Gay people tend to party more. Perhaps this is because we've been keeping it all bottled up inside for all those year. There's never been a gay-themed event that I wasn't excited about.

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Thankyou, so much for your fe

Thankyou, so much for your feedback you guys!

unicornz's picture

ok

i was raised with everything PINK, frilly dresses and crimped ahir with bows. argh. now i dont even know how to make a ponytail n i wouldnt be caught dead in a dress. my barbies got dusty real fast. but i was raised to have kids n stuff and i still want kids eventually. my parents never implied i should be staright or anything

my role models when i was younger was Marie Curie and Jane Goodall and they were scientists and i liked science so i liked them.

i liked that being a girl i got in trouble less. i hated not being able to hang out with the guys and being smaller all the time and dresses ahh!! and also stupid comments by guys and parties with gross guys that are stupid. Also feeling like i shouldnt be agressive or loud. well im not agressive or loud but i would have stood up for myself more.

being "queer" makes my life a little odd and frustrating, but its not so bad. i just hate hiding things, but i feel like i have to. yes i wish people werent just tolerant but accepting. urgh

well my mom is the only "queer" person i know (does bi count?) and she taught me if people were stupid about it to stick up for myself and walk away from them. also, never to be ashamed or feel differentweird. i dont really know any actually gay people.

hope your paper goes well.