During a recent SMS chat (i.e. cell phone IM) session with a penpal of mine, he said something that reminded me of an (social, non-sexual) encounter I had with a Canadian gay guy at a party in the gay bar in Guilin about a year ago.
This guy was telling me about how he had come to China not for tourism, not for work, not for a cultural experience, but to find an Asian boyfriend. I thought that was, for lack of a better possible description, weirder than shit. It would appear that this man had what I like to call an "ethnic fetish."
I'm not talking about fetishes in the Freudian sense. Rather, I like to refer to fetishes such as what a friend of mine once called "Yellow Fever" as quasi-racist phenomena stemming from years of otherization of other peoples and, to a lesser extent, culture shock.
Almost all of the guys I've dated have been Han Chinese, the exceptions being one guy who was a quarter Zhuang and another guy who was Nepalese. This is because I didn't date while I was in the US, and, of course, Han people comprise the vast majority of China's population. However, when things start to enter the realm of guys who have a "preference" for whites, Asians, blacks, or anyone else, or a lack of interest in members of a given ethnic group, I start to feel a little, to reiterate, weird.
Usually, when I hear about reasons for these kinds of preferences, they're because of either lending creedence to ethnic stereotypes (e.g. that Asian guys all have small dicks, or that black and white guys all have big dicks) or the idea that certain complexions are more or less attractive than others.
What are your thoughts on this?