Raining_Cloud's picture there's this girl in school that I have a crush on(I'm female, btw). She's very new at school, like...yesterday was her 4th day or something. So I've talked with her some and I really really like her, she's very sweet and funny and pretty and a great individual. I'd really like to ask her out, but I don't know if she's gay/bi or would you go about figuring this out? Much love!

Jazzer's picture

First things first, my dear

If I were you, I would first make sure she was comfortable with the notion of homo/bisexuality before anything else. She could be the biggest dyke in the world, but if she's not out to herself or if she's not comfortable with talking about it, then you have a recipe for disaster (not to mention heartache).


Some people's kids...I tell ya!

greyboi's picture

Friends First...

The best way to build a relationship with someone is to establish a friendship first. Once you know about her, then you'd be able to decide for yourself if this person is compatible with you or not and if this person shares mutual affection. If you're both gay, you'll know it; it just takes time to notice your obscure similarities. Till then, I'd just have plain conversation and scope each other out.

Renfaerie's picture


I agree with the previously stated. Just take it slow and build a friendship then go from there.
I don't mind if you're straight, just as long as you act gay in public.-a button

DiscSpinnerDude's picture

My two cents

If it makes you feel any better, I've been in the same crushing (pun spasmatically intended) situation for awhile. (Har har har - get the pun?)

I've had a crush for the same guy at school for almost six months... and I don't know if he's gay. I guess just being friends first -is- the best advice, but everythings so haarrd. = Hope things work out for ya! =)