letting friends know...

insanepenguin's picture

Will someone please help? I need think I need to tell some friends that I'm bi, & I really don't know how they'll react...
I think that they would be okay with it, but I'm not totally sure. I really don't know why I feel the need to let them know, but at this point I have accepted the fact, & I have a girlfriend. Most of my other friends know, & they're totally okay with it. I was even ready to have this girl I know yell it really loud in the cafeteria (our whole school of about 300 eats lunch at the same time) so everyone would know, that's how I feel about it. Someone please help me... Thanks.

JanetBoy7's picture

Hard, but should be done...

I know it's a hard thing to do. You should only feel the need to tell your really close friends, but not be afraid to tell anyone who asks you about it.
Most of my friends where okay with besides one friend you started to cry, and said it really wasn't right... and all this other stuff... but it didn't help that she like me either. Then after all this drama turns out shes bi too!!! I was really up set by this, because she made me feel really bad when I told her then all of a sudden she's bi!! Where cool now though..
I say just get it out of the way... the sooner you tell the people you’re close to the sooner it will be that they accept you for who you are. Although if anyone has a MAJOR problem with the whole GAY issue then I would really think about telling that person, just think about how they going to react, in a good manner or not?

Hope this helps.
jboy

sweetmittens's picture

:)

i told my group of friends a couple of years ago that i was bi, and everyone was cool with it. but the thing is after that, i learnt it really didnt matter, and i dont feel its something u need to announce or anything, like its just who i am. the ppl im friends with now have always known my sexuality but ive never gone out of my way to tell them. its just like ill be talking about how hot some girl is or something, and they'll be like 'ohhhhhh' hehe.
but if uve got a girlfriend it should (SHOULD) be hell easy. just introduce her to people, theyll probably get the picture ;) and it gives u a basis to tell ppl ur sexuality. i know some ppl r a bit confused by bisexuality, thinking we're just confused, or promiscuous or whatever, but ive always found everyones pretty non-caring. if theyre your friends of course theyll just take u as u r. or theyll do what some of my friends do, which is try to ignore the me liking girls part, and embrace that i still like guys haha.
well that was helpful :p
-bi the way of kerith-

insanepenguin's picture

Thank you, your advice was he

Thank you, your advice was helpful.

~*Kate*~

aka Insanepenguin

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insanepenguin's picture

Well, telling them didn't go

Well, telling them didn't go so well. My one friend is still talking to me, but the other is completely ignoring me... I hate narrow-minded people. -_-

~*Kate*~

aka Insanepenguin

http://www.geocities.com/insanepenguin87/main.html

Eddie UK's picture

Houh :(

just cos they reacted badly doesnt mean they will never speak to you again. Have you thought about giving them some time to adjust and not bringing up the topic again and letting them bring it up, it's not like they are gonna forget.

sweetmittens's picture

awww!!!

oh sweetie! *huggles*...*MORE*huggles*
who needs friends who cant accept u anyways..loser they are :P..but im sorry!..they prolly just need time..but othawise u r clearly muchos better than they :) as they r losers...LOSERS hehe
-bi the way of kerith-

craZi_star00's picture

sorry

I'm sorry your friends reacted like that. It's terrible how some people can be so narrow minded. I had no problems when I told my friends this past summer but I already knew their veiws on the subject. My big one was telling my mom. I was afraid she would be mad or upset but she just looked at me and said "i know". I hope your friend comes around to being ok with who you are, it would be horrible for you to have to lose a friendship over that.

**~~ali~~**
C'est la vie.