Starting over

T-mas's picture

I just moved to hawaii and it's all foreign to me. I mean, I was out to every living soul in my former hometown and school, but now I have to start coming out all over again.
How on earth do I go about this?
T-mas, "the new guy"

i kiss girlz's picture

I would guess

that as you make new friends in Hawaii, you decide who you want to know that you're gay. You know, since I am the crazy person that I am, I would go to school one day just totally decked out in rainbows and all. I think that would make the message clear, don't you?

I KiSs GiRlZ
AnD ThEy LiKe It

milly the fairy's picture

heres my idea...

Don't come out just yet. I mean, if you want to, then do. But make friends first, then when you do come out they'll still like you. And besides, there could be alot of homophobia at your school. You will already be known as the new kid. Its best not to be known as the new gay kid.
Pm if you want.
Love Amelia

T-mas's picture

Old Habits Die Hard

True, but I was one of those "out-loud-and-proud" kids at my old school, so it feels so, like, weird being in the closet all over again, you know? But you're probably right. What a way to start school off, as the "new gay kid". But...on the other hand...yo never know...right?

milly the fairy's picture

new gay school!

Hey, well your new school could be the gayest school in the area...
Just some thoughts.... get gossip from people at school.
You'll get a first day buddy right?
*Evil grins*
I would hate that....

TeeAhr1's picture

feelin' ya

I really know what you mean. I've always been that loud obnoxious homo, first in high school, then in college. Now I'm in a new town (albeit 250 miles away, not 25 gazillion like yourself), at a new job, surrounded by new people, and it suddenly occurred to me last week that all of a sudden, I'm back in the closet! And the weird thing is, I'm not even exactly sure how it happened, let alone where to go from here.

This probably isn't helping you any, but I just wanted to chime in, let you know you're not alone in your feelings. Obviously, I don't have a lot of advice to give on the topic, or I'd be taking it myself. All I can really tell you is feel it out, take your time. These are some of the most important decisions you'll ever make; do what feels right, when it feels right. I can imagine you kind of feel like you're selling yourself out by staying silent, cuz I kind of feel the same way. But don't screw yourself by rushing yourself, or letting anyone else rush you. I'm not advocating staying in the closet here, I'm advocating following your own heart. Wait for your moment, and be ready when it comes.

Feel free to pm me if you want to talk, I'd love to vent a little too. Til then...

p. daniels is...TeeAhr1
Pinko hippy faggot.
Estd 1981

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