I have been thinking a lot lately about what defines someone's sexuality. Like can you just have sex with people in general, but define yourself as a lesbian? By doing that are you contradicing yourself? Are you a hypocrite? What if you can't imagine yourself in a heterosexual relationship? What if not only can you not imagine it, but you don't even want it? If the thought is even unsettling to some extent. Is it just fear of commiting? But wait. You can imagine yourself with a woman. So then you are once again a lesbian. Okay, but there is still the factor of sex. You would have sex with a guy if you were drunk. Probably not sober, though. But what about a woman? Wouldn't you be just as scared with a woman? Okay, so the alcohol is not a deciding factor. How much of your sexual identity is based on love, and how much on lust? Must you possibly love a particular sex to deem yourself actually attracted to them? Must both love and lust go hand in hand? Is it even lust that you feel for some guys? Is it anymore than a game? A conquest? Is lust ussually any more than that? Does it make a difference if what you feel for men is nothing compared to what you feel for women? Is that just another component of your bisexuality? Or is it a red flag trying to tell you that you are deluding yourself and screaming "Duh you are a lesbian"? But when you think about it, has there ever been sexual tension between you and a guy? Has the outcome ever mattered to you in the slightest? Have you ever longed for the embrace of a man? And the tallies are in...the conclusion is you are a lesbian.