The good, the bad and the beautiful

Paladin's picture

I: The good news

I spent the last three days in our hectic, crowded, sprawling capital city, Kuala Lumpur, where everyone takes an hour to 90 minutes to get into the city centre (where I live, it's an average of 10 minutes). I was there for an admissions interview. I can't go into more details at this time. In April I will be able to though.

II: On Jake

While on the trip, I was thinking about my crush, Jake (not his real name). On the plane and the train, I close my eyes and he's sitting on my lap. I've also been trying out perfume that will make me smell good. A lady at the duty-free shop showed me "Jazz", which smells really manly. I wanted it, even if it was to spray on any other guy. Unfortunately, I used too much money in KL to be able to buy it. So much for trying to win Jake over with smell.

III: On reaching out

I also considered getting in touch with the only other Malaysian queer person I know. She was very briefly on oasis. But I didn't plan ahead properly, so I didn't think to send her an e-mail, and I didn't have her phone number. In future I must make more of these oppurtunities, but things are looking dim for the possibility of further university interviews as they give decisiosn on early April.

IV: The bad news

On the flight back home my bag was lost while flying with Air Asia, a crappy budget airline. Among items in it were my school work from the past month and a poster of Aragorn which I bought on the trip. This got me pretty pissed. Leaving the airport my brother reversed the car into a curb while we were leaving the parking lot. This shook me up a bit.

Then, along the same journey, we had to slow down considerably because an oncoming van was crossing on to our side of the road. Then a minivan crashed into us from behind. I shouted in frustration and told my brother to stop. Fortunately there was only a very minor dent to the car, not worth claiming compensation for or fighting about.

I found out my brother has been posted to do his internship at the hospital in my city. I was hoping he would get posted elsewhere; I don't like him.

V: Future posts

I am planning to post my first "Essay" on Oasis, soon (soon, as in this weekend), on a brief modern history of the gay community in Malaysia, as best I understand it. I will also try to find the time to write my second chapter of my story, about my crush, Jake. I'm grateful for all of the feedback I've been getting.

Comments

suffragettecity's picture

nitpick

That fragrance you tried would be properly called "cologne," not "perfume." Perfume is women's fragrance, cologne is for men.

Sorry to read about the problems you encountered (I know what crappy budget airlines are like; I can understand why Indiana's own budget airline, ATA, had to declare bankruptcy recently)

I'm looking forward to your essay on the gay community in Malaysia...

"Sometimes a little brain damage helps."
-- George Carlin

Jopurdy's picture

You live in Malaysia? That's

You live in Malaysia? That's so cool! I didn't know gay people existed in Malaysia!!! lol. OMG, do they kill people for coming out of the closet there??? Is it like a third world country? Do people's families disown them? Is it dangerous there? I think I'd be scared...

If it's a sin to love you
Then in hell i'd rather be
Opposed to living a life with people
In heaven looking down on me

suffragettecity's picture

not exactly...

Saudi Arabia, Iran, Sudan, Yemen, United Arab Emirates, Mauritania, Nigeria and Pakistan are the countries in which homosexuality is listed as being punishable by death. However, I don't know if the laws are always enforced, and I think that in Nigeria, it's only a capital crime in Muslim areas (I had a colleague from Nigeria, and he said that the Islam practiced there is of the psychotic fundamentalist variety).

"Sometimes a little brain damage helps."
-- George Carlin

Paladin's picture

Suff: That fragrance you trie

Suff: That fragrance you tried would be properly called "cologne," not "perfume." Perfume is women's fragrance, cologne is for men.

Yes, thanks for pointing that out. I know the difference, it just slipped off the radar, probably because my friends use the terms interchangably.

Jopurdy: I didn't know gay people existed in Malaysia!!! lol.

Somehow I don't think you're the only American who doesn't know this, since I heard that 20% of Americans can't name the ocean between America and Asia as the Pacific Ocean.

OMG, do they kill people for coming out of the closet there???

No. Mostly they don't do anything except shun you.

Is it like a third world country?

It's sort of half way between the First and Third Worlds. The UN places it fourth of the Medium Human Development column section Human Development Report, if that means anything to you. So I guess you could say Malaysia's almost a developed country, but not quite.

Do people's families disown them? Is it dangerous there? I think I'd be scared...

I don't think it happens that often, mostly because most people here don't have quite the drive to express themselves by coming out that people in western countries do. I get the feeling if a gay person here told everyone, it would bring shame on his family. Fortunately the Muslims don't quite have the same attitude to shame as many in the Middle East, and in general people are usually quite pacifist.

There are several effeminate, presumably gay, guys around here, and no one seems to care. I'm not effeminate, so I really think I don't have much to worry about from others, as long as I keep my head down.

Dave