I'm new and confused!!

Angelpup12's picture

I need help I'm 17 and a lesbian and I don't know if I should tell my family. I know thay love me but will they be able to except me for who I really am? I don't know only a few of my friends know but one of them opened there mouth so today I had other friends that I didn't tell coming up to me asking me stuff about it. It's not that I'm ashamed of who I am but it's difficult to find answers. I have talked to 3 different psyciatrists and they tell me different things. So if they is anyone that has any advice for me what so ever I am game to hear it so please post a response..

Jazzer's picture

A little advice

I think the best way to deal with this is just to make sure you're comfortable with yourself first. And really, that just takes time. Living every day knowing that you're different is kinda hard at first, but I think that in the end, you're a stronger person because of it.

I suppose my main piece of advice is just to take it slow, and not be in a rush to tell everybody just because you think you have to. As far as your family, only you can really judge that. There are stories that run the full spectrum of possibilities--usually religion plays a big part in how families take the news.

I hope this helps.


Some people's kids...I tell ya!

noangel6301's picture


Ok, I am kinda in the same boat as you are and what i have decided, is that i am not going to tell my family, until I AM READY and not before. Also just take things slow, once you are okay with being gay then you will be more comfortable telling others. But there is no rush, so take your time.

hope it all works out for you

Dreamers often lie.

mom_says_im_confussed's picture

im 14 and i told my mom i was

im 14 and i told my mom i was bi she took it sort of bad and told me i was confussed. i dont think i was ready to tell her. just make sure u are ready to tell them and make sure ur are comfortale wif who u are. my friend told his family and he thought his brothers wud reacted bad but they never. the way i look at it is, it's ur family and no matter wat the will stick by u coz it wont change who u are as a person

notsure's picture


Hey umm , I dont really share my feelings so this is a big step. Well im 15, and confused. I dont know whether im straight, bi or gay. I guess i started wondering about all this over the last two years, but lately it seems more present in my life.umm, that's all realy. I'd really like some advice or anything.Or just someone to talk to whose is or been here.