My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year, and we have had some trouble in bed. She has to have our strap-on to get her off, and it kindof upsets me. the vibrator is the only thing that can get her off, and I am not even a part of it. I just sit there. thrust hurts her, she can feel me eat her out, and my fingers supposedly make her sore. I am at a loss. i dont know what to do about it. I am at a loss. I read up on the lesbian bed death, which is where sex just isnt interesting any more, but it didtn really help me. She refuses to try anything new, and will not break out of her shell. Such as talk dirty, or tryanything at all. She wont tell me what she wants or what feels good. I just dont know how to make it better. Any suggestions would be good. I read a book called the low-down on going down, and those tricks dont work either? help!