Getting Teased At School :-(

RadclyffeGeek's picture

A few months back, I had my hair cut short. Not a crew cut or anything, just much shorter than I'd ever had it before. Personally, I loved it, there was so much less hassle, so many funky styles I could do (ever gelled your hair straight up? You should!) and I thought it made me look quite a bit more mature. Most people seemed to like it too- and I got loads of compliments.
However not everyone was so nice, in fact one guy in particular called me and another girl (who also has short hair) 'the two butch lesbians- Hutchy and Butchy'. not exactly original- I know- but still hurtful :-( Now I know I shoul just ignore it, but other people are starting on it and actually asking if I'm gay. I don't wanna lie, but I don't exactly want to be out to the entire school. I've got badges, and I drop plenty of hints, but the people who don't pick up on them are the people I don't want to know.



Daelus's picture


I don't think there's much you can do about it,
unfortunately.. other than just shrug it off
and act like it doesn't bother you. Maybe
then they'll get bored and stop doing it.

I don't know.. I'm not much help, sorry.

And there's nothing wrong with lying and
saying you're not gay. If it'd help.

"If nothing we do matters, then all that
matters is what we do."

NovaCat's picture

That's actually kind amusing

That's actually kind amusing (and sad at the same time) that, though you have pride badges and stuff like that, the only thing that tipped people off was when you cut your hair, which wasn't even supposed to be a "gay" thing. It's like, they see rainbow bracelets and ribbons and go, "Oh, she must just like ribbons," but then they see short hair and instantly go, "DYKE!"

Quite stupid if you ask me. Unfortunately, if that's what get's people's attention, there's not much you can do about it, especially if you want to keep your hair short. If people are being obnoxious, just tell them to piss off or ignore them or something.

fghdrjgfjsfurt's picture

Yeah this thing sorta is happ

Yeah this thing sorta is happening to me too.

I know
The odds are all aginst me
and I know
you might not feel this way too
but i know
i would rather die trying
to know
if i could mean something to you

the mouse that roared's picture


That sucks that people are being so stupid. I'm sorry people are teasing you. It sounds like people at school are generally being pretty homophobic...

The only thing I can think of that might help is to simply not tell the truth to the people who you don't want to know. Unless only a few of your friends/people who look for gay badges know, it will end up spreading, but hopefully it will be more gradual, and maybe people will get over it more before they tease you more.

Good luck!

I'm going to have to try spiking my hair straight up when I cut mine...

Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it's beautiful?
--William Zinsser