Straight Virgin @ 20

Anonymous22's picture

Hello everyone,
I'm a male virgin and have a few questions. Believe it or not, I'm 20. Perhaps the apathy I've had towards losing my virginity is partly due to the areas I've always lived (Rural America) which is a very boring place to live with little options to lose it (virginity) to. My question is, how will an experienced or 20 something women react when it comes to that moment and I'm forced to explain my inexperience?

LOL! Yes, it must sound crazy, huh?!

Anyways, I'm fairly good looking, lean, and intelligent so I've had at least three occasions I could've lost it but would've felt empty because I didn't care about the ladies I was about to lose it to.

Anonymous22's picture

I just now realized I'm in th

I just now realized I'm in the wrong place..lol...this is antithetical to the places I need to be posting this question...

boho's picture

Well, even if you are in the

Well, even if you are in the wrong place, it doesn't mean people here can't offer support.

Personally, I think gender stereotypes are ridiculous. Boys are expected to be "experienced" when it comes to sex, and girls are expected to be "pure." How is this supposed to work?

Don't worry about social pressure. You'll find that there are more straight girls than you might think who are still virgins into adulthood, and I'm sure there are other guys in your situation as well.

Anonymous22's picture

Thanks

Thank you.

justoutat21's picture

Huh... don't feel bad I'm 21

Huh... don't feel bad I'm 21 and still a virgin. I just move alot and now I'm been in the same place for almos two years. It is a small town, and there is no decent boys or girls in this town. So, I don't think I'm going to lose it anytime soon. Its pathetic!

supergray's picture

Personally, I think gender st

Personally, I think gender stereotypes are ridiculous. Boys are expected to be "experienced" when it comes to sex, and girls are expected to be "pure." How is this supposed to work?

I have some ideas. *snork*

boho's picture

*rofl* As do I, but keep in m

*rofl* As do I, but keep in mind that society ALSO insists that everyone be straight. ;P

noangel6301's picture

Hahaha Yeah and we all see h

Hahaha Yeah and we all see how well that turned out!

Dreamers often lie.

the mouse that roared's picture

Actually, many here deal with

Actually, many here deal with issues of being inexperienced at "older" ages as well. Most questions of sexuality are universal.

Don't worry about being a virgin. It sounds like you want to lose your virginity to someone you really love, which is a wise decision. When you fall in love with someone who loves you back, superficial things like experience shouldn't matter.

Life would be so much simpler without double standards...

If you want to post here again, don't feel worried about being straight. Straight people have posted here in the past.

Peace and good luck!

Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it's beautiful?
--William Zinsser

flushd's picture

no problems!

Well, I'm a 26 yr old bi woman.
I was 21 when I lost my virginity. Same sort of situation. Grew up in a small town with few opportunities. I waited until I found someone I felt right with. I'm glad I did.

Personally, I think it's great! I would have no problems with this at all. There are plenty of women looking to find someone like you. wow.

Take care, and right on brother!

Anonymous22's picture

Thanks Everyone

Thanks everyone for the support! So glad I came here.....

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

Don't worry about it so much,

Don't worry about it so much,I'm a guy too,almost 18&haven't had sex ethier,in fact in someways I'm not sure if I even want to for awhile.
Cogito Ergo Sum

noangel6301's picture

No worries

I am 19 and don't plan on losing my virginity anytime soon, its not easy to give your body to someone,(unless you are able to seperate sex from your emotions that is) So not losing your virginity to just any jack or jane show emotional stability to me, so don't worry about it, it should make that person feel special that you chose them to be your first.

Dreamers often lie.