Fear of your own gender...

Jagged Problems's picture

I know I'm gay and all that but that's not very helpful when you're afraid of your own gender.
But I know that I still think that they're hot...
... What should I do?

theonechickcagelle's picture

how do you define this fear,

how do you define this fear, if you don't mind my asking.

"you must cut down the mightiest tree in the forest, with..... a herring!" (dramatic music)

gaybutsad's picture

Hmmm yes im afraid of boys/me

Hmmm yes im afraid of boys/men/teenagers
w/e you wanna call them.
I LOVE them don't get me wrong but..............

We can come out of this shell together, talk to them and and interacting. Knowing we have eachother's back. feel better?

"Note to self, I miss you terribly. This is what we call a tragedy. Come back to me back to me, to me."~~~~From FIrst to last, Note to self

Jagged Problems's picture

Unable to explain...

I can't really explain it but it's more like you don't want to get anywhere near or communicate. I guess it's because I don't want to get verbally bashed.

BTW, if I seem like I'm complaining I am sorry. But I'm a big black spot in a sea of white. You know, the homophobic area.

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

I live there too. "The true

I live there too.
"The true goal of sex is not enjoyment
,but Pain" The Marquis de Sade.

jeff's picture

There's a big difference...

between being afraid to approach someone of your own gender in general, and approaching people of your gender who may beat you up for being gay.

I mean, try and find places where the people will be receptive to who you are, not necessarily that you will be able to ask everyone out, but still able to be yourself. GSAs, PFLAG, etc.

Unless you think you would be just as freaked out in a roomful of gay guys...

theindigolemon's picture

Afraid? Like being nervous t

Afraid? Like being nervous talking to them? Or afraid of being one?
lolling on my lollerskates......

kartovla's picture

fear, or akward anxiety type

fear, or akward anxiety type 'fear'? if its the latter, i think i know what you are talking about

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect"
"if young love is just a game then i must have missed the kick off"

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

I'm Bi,men still scare me tho

I'm Bi,men still scare me though. I do have a reason though since I was raped by some.

"The true goal of sex is not enjoyment
,but Pain" The Marquis de Sade.