Fear to succeed

aviva's picture

Don't be afraid to succeed. People with low self-esteem are often afraid to succeed because they feel they don't deserve success.

I was scared this year. I found comfort in self-sabotage, like let me trip myself before somthing else trips me... I found that utter failure was much more comfortable a concept for me to deal with than possible success. Failure matched the image I had of myself.

If only I knew what I was doing - evading issues, side-stepping... doing anything to avoid being me, cause the idea that I could deserve to be happy scared the shit out of me.

It's like Nelson Mandela said: (paraphrased) we're not afraid of failure, we're afraid of being successful. My greatest obstacle, perhaps, my only obstacle will always be my self-doubt and shame.

Comments

the mouse that roared's picture

Thanks for posting

I'm like that a bit, too. If you want to, you will develop the confidence eventually.

Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it's beautiful?
--William Zinsser

lex's picture

yeh, i know the feeling. its

yeh, i know the feeling.
its like you're scared of trying too hard in case you screw up, then be really disappointed, so you just dont try, or avoid it for as long as possible, usually to your own detriment