One year on...

Paladin's picture

One year ago I joined Oasis. I was out to only one guy friend and one counselor/teacher who he recommended I see because I wasn't happy about being in the closet. Oh how things have changed.

I am incredibly happy now. I am here at _________ College (you can figure out where pretty easily). I have met some of the most amazing people, none of whom give a damn that I so happen to be gay. I truly don't feel like I have anything to hide any more. I am not in the closet any more. I have a shirt which subtly declares my homosexuality. There are lots of gay guys here, lots of lesbians, and lots of people in between. Our GSA has over 60 people turn up for meetings. The other night at a frat I saw two guys making out at the front and it was so awesome. No one cared that they were both guys. And October is Coming Out Month here.

One of my floormates has arranged for me to meet tomorrow with a guy I don't believe I've met, but who looks hot enough. I'm hoping allwill go well, though I don't want to get my hopes up too high. We three should be meeting for lunch, though that is provisional. I don't ever want to leave this place.

On the not so cheerful side, I'm trying to figure out why some gay guys seem more eager to dance with their bodies against girls than to do the same with guys, even when they're completely out. I for one prefer dancing with guys.

This will probably be my last regular post here, simply because I have better things to do with my time now. I may pop in every now and again, but for now, goodbye Oasis.


jeff's picture


Easy. Dancing with girls is easier as there is no sexual tension from the perspective of the gay guys when they dance with girls. When they dance with you, it has a built-in sexual component.

I always think it is a good thing when people decide to leave Oasis. As much as I'd like to tell people to stay and share their wisdom, well... let's face it: everyone asks for advice and then just go on to make their own mistakes anyway most of the time, only to returnafterward for more support. :-)

Campfire's picture

Good to hear

What with all the incessant morbid postings it's nice to see some light at the end of the tunnel, good luck and have fun in the future :)

the mouse that roared's picture


I'm glad things have been turning out so well for you in college. I can't wait to get there.

I think both you and jeff may be right about Oasis. I don't need this site so much anymore, and it might be better if I spent less time here...

Well, I did like reading your posts here, and I hope college (and the guy your meeting) keeps going well!


Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it's beautiful?
--William Zinsser

Sirens call's picture


Yeah, I find myself visiting Oasis less and less. I used to be on here everyday! I don't feel it calling to me anymore, lol.