A mistake

sporty15890's picture

I haven't been on oasis for a little while. I've been trying to figure out if I'm gay or not, and I'm just confused. I need someone to talk to and asked my parents if I could see someone and they immediatley caught on. It is so ackward and I can't look at them, they said they understand but I feel like I have destroyed my mom. I don't know what to do, I'm going to see the counselor, my parents wanted me to get things straight (ha). I feel like this was a huge mistake nad I can't take it back. I don't want my sexual preference to define who I am, I'm more than that, and I'm affraid my parents aren't seeing that at the moment. I just want an explanation for my feelings, why do I feel this way towards other girls? I want to accept it, but with many around me that aren't I don't want to or I am affraid to. This is just so hard, and I know that everyone feels that way, I just want to be comfortable with who I am.


saves_the_day's picture

Figuring out who you are is a

Figuring out who you are is a large part of growing up. Being afraid is also a part of growing up. Only you can answer why you have these feelings for other girls, no one else. But don't worry. All will be okay in the end.

My only advice that I can give to you right now is find yourself, that's the most important thing at the moment. Don't let your sexual preference define who you are. It's gonna be hard, but it's only a part of you not the entire you -as you had said.

I spent my entire high school career trying to find my true self, it was within the month following my graduation that I was finally able to admit to myself that I was a lesbian. Don't rush it. Take is easy, nice and slow.

If you need to talk some more, don't hesitate to write back. Good luck.

~Just ask the question, untie the knot~