What do you think of the idea of bi?

It's fine, someone can like a guy and a girl
52% (49 votes)
I'm gay, but bi is cool
35% (33 votes)
being bi is lazy, you're just not making your mind up
4% (4 votes)
There is no such think as being bi, you're just afraid to say your gay
5% (5 votes)
Don't have an opinion
4% (4 votes)
Total votes: 95

Comments

adbak's picture

The first two seem to me to b

The first two seem to me to be the same.

gaybutsad's picture

I find bisexual being stupid.

I find bisexual being stupid. This is an opinion so don't bomb on me.
Only because I find being bisexual being a phase. When you say your bi alot of people preffer something over something. If you like boys better, your obviously gay. Like girls better, your obviously straight.You like both the same, your a horny std-catching freak. I'm not saying it's bad im just saying you know you like someone more. Find someone and keep them. You don't need to be bi to love someone.

p.s. ALOT of girls turn bisexual for attention. I find it really annoying.

"Note to self, I miss you terribly. This is what we call a tragedy. Come back to me back to me, to me."~~~~From FIrst to last, Note to self

Kang Lin's picture

I find poorly based opinions stupid.

Homosexual implies an exclusive desire for the same gender. Not a slight preference over the other. An exclusive desire. I appreciate that it's not so easy to sum up, but liking one gender more than the other doesn't cause you to completely disregard your feelings for the less preferred. It seems like you're bitching about how the dictionary phrases bisexual and not about the orientation itself.

Maybe some bisexuals end up functioning as gay, it doesn't make them any less bisexual. Case in point, sexually I am bisexual (with a major bias towards males, I'll admit) - I could, from the neck down, sleep with either gender. However, when it comes to intimacy, I am completely gay. The idea of kissing a female face just doesn't appeal to me and with regards to forming a relationship with the other gender, I'm a fish out of water. As such, rather than say "I'm bisexual, but..." I opt for gay as the label of choice, since bisexual would suggest that I would be ok forming a relationship with a girl (which I wouldn't). I know of someone else who is more or less the opposite.

What I'm trying to get across to you is that bisexuality is a perfectly valid state of being, irrespective of where and how the term is used. To take offence at someone identifying as liking both genders with a slight preference for the other is a) logically fallacious and b) plain childish.

thehuman's picture

one way to look at it

but very limited.

I am bisexual, I like both the same. I am not a "horny std catching freak" in fact, I am a virgin.

People can't "turn" bisexual any more than they can "turn" strait or gay.
Girls will call themselves bisexual for attention sometimes. How do you know that they are just doing it for attention? Only they can truly know. I could say that you like the oposite sex but are just denying it. I will not say that as I don't believe it to be true. I believe you when you say you're gay, though only you know for sure. The same goes for me and all the other bi's. And for all gays straits and others.

Shenlong the Arcane's picture

Even though there are alot of

Even though there are alot of people who accept bi people, that is one bad thing about it, you have some people who don't accept you in the queer communtiy and in the straight community.

the mouse that roared's picture

I wish

That people would accept bis, too. Kinsey scale and all that.

Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it's beautiful?
--William Zinsser

Kang Lin's picture

Eugh

This poll wasn't necessary and you know it.

Patch's picture

Neither was your comment ;D

Neither was your comment ;D

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

thehuman's picture

Obligatory missing option

I am bi.

devildog's picture

I think some people discrimin

I think some people discriminate against those who are bisexual because they think of sexuality so rigidly. You're either/or, and nothing in between. But if you really look at yourself honestly, you'll see that's not true at all. Even though it's hard to imagine myself liking guys, I don't think negatively of those who like both:).

~*~*~*~*~*~

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Oscar Wilde

Dim's picture

yeah..

today I spoke with a gay guy, and he seemed to have really hard feelings concerning bi ppl.. which is weird.. I mean, its just how a person feels right? thats y some identify as gay, some as straight, while others are bi... does it make a difference?

DIm

Kang Lin's picture

There is some logic

The idea of bisexuality scares the hell out of me because, as a gay guy, I'm under the impression that any bisexual boy given the choice between me and a girl would go for the girl since it's easier to get away with, so to speak. I know how nasty that sounds and how untrusting I am, but my past experience with bisxexual boys does seem to support it. It doesn't help matters when I'm deeply in love with one, since the cost of losing him becomes even greater. Not that I'm going to lose him, or so he assures me ;-)

Chizuna san's picture

being bisexual feels kind of

being bisexual feels kind of comaprable to being bi-racial: the queers don't want you cause you're straight, the straghts don't want you cause you're gay

devildog's picture

Aw, that's terrible! You thin

Aw, that's terrible! You think people in the gay community would be more open, wouldn't you? I guess everyone group has their problems.

~*~*~*~*~*~

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Oscar Wilde

goatchunx's picture

WTF

Whoever voted for option for could use some tolerance training. How hypocritical to hold such an opinion on a LGBT forum!

Q - "What is your sexual preference?"
A - "I have no sexual preference."

kartovla's picture

hey people, whatever happened

hey people, whatever happened to free love?!?

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect"
"if young love is just a game then i must have missed the kick off"

thehuman's picture

yay for free love

But I think it is somewhat of a different issue.
There are monogamous bi's and there are poly gays and straits.

Maybe we should have a poll on free love a bit later.

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

I'm Bi "Here's Johnny" - Jac

I'm Bi
"Here's Johnny" - Jack Nickelson, The Shineing

truthcompellu's picture

Every bi person I know says t

Every bi person I know says they prefer one sex over the other. Usually they lean more toward being gay than straight and date more straight than gay. But that's just the ones I know. I think being bi is okay, but I do think that some shallow people who use it's label as something to attract guys in a straight relationship.

And I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When ev'rything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

thehuman's picture

I don't really have a prefence

Although my primary intrest may change from day to day, I really can't say that I prefer one over the other.

paper moth's picture

Kinsey scale

I'm a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale.

chevamartin's picture

i'm confused about this whole

i'm confused about this whole thing. i came out as bi first. then just gay. then i suddenly had a crush on some guy.. at the same time as i liked a girl. now that crush on the guy is slowly mostly going away.. but the girl one isnt. ive always liked girls more. and had more intense feelings for them. so who knows, right? sexuality is fluid.

raining men's picture

I see

I see why people beleive bi just can't make up their minds - alot of people do come out as bi first, and then come out as gay. But being bi is blatantly a valid sexuality, I never have entirely understood those who say it isn't

"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suf-fer-ing"

Ashley Elizabeth's picture

Bisexuality

I agree this pole was completely unneccasary. Each persons sexuality is their own and if your not straight then regardless of wether or not you trans or gay or bi or a lez or whatever, we have to deal with a whole lot of bullshit. we need to all be suppotive of eachother.

-I guess there is something wrong with me, I guess I dont fit in- Ani DiFranco

Patch's picture

You guys are idiots if you th

You guys are idiots if you think this was unnecessary. If it was unnecessary, why all the fear and hate I hear going towards the bisexual community? You Kang Lin, you yourself, said that bi people freaked you out. You and many others are bi-phobic. Saying this poll is unnecessary is like some hetero saying a poll on where you stand on gay rights is unnecessary. You guys totally don't know shit. If there was no need for the poll, wouldn't all responses have been the same? How stupid do you have to be to say something is unnecessary when it definitely is? Sporty15980 Thank you for bringing forward this current, important, and ongoing debate. Disregard what all the biphobes are saying. This is relevant, and I applaud you for reminding us of it.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

Kang Lin's picture

Rollercoasters scare me. Does

Rollercoasters scare me. Doesn't mean there's anything morally wrong with them. If I was biphobic, why would I be dating a bisexual? The fear in question is one rooted in my own lack of self esteem, not in hatred. A fear that I won't be able to keep hold of someone due to increased competition is very different to a fear of the person themselves. Please actually read my responses clearly before responding with such misinformed ranting.

Patch's picture

Regardless, the rest of my po

Regardless, the rest of my post stands true. Plus, sin't assuming that you'll lose your bi person due to competition doesn't say that you think highly of your signifigant other. It says you think he/she will leave you for someone else just cuz there's more people they are attracted to. If they leave you, it won't be because they are attracted to more people. NOr will the fact that they are attracted to both genders mean you will have to fight harder for their attention. If you really understood bi-people, you would understand that even though they are attracted to both genders, they are still just as faithful as the next person. So maybe you aren't as understanding as you thought.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

Kang Lin's picture

No, it doesn't. If you consid

No, it doesn't. If you consider Bisexuals to be perfectly acceptable then why do you need a poll to say so? That is my fucking point. I would have assumed by default that homosexuals and bisexuals were mutually accepting. What the poll is basically asking is for biphobes to start a pissing match, because people who have no problem with bisexuals really have nothing more to say on the matter (except meta discussion like this). It's pure flamebait.

I'd also ask that you read what I say before putting words into my mouth. I pointed out that the fear was based on past experience and my own insecurity, not because I think lowly of my boyfriend, which nullifies your point about faithfulness - in my experience, no-one my age is. In fact it spawns from the converse. I don't feel worthy of him, because my past 'success' would judge that I was a crap boyfriend, and as a result, just have another 3 billion people to feel in competition with.

Patch's picture

So what do you want Kang lin?

So what do you want Kang lin? Polls where everybody votes the same? How f'ing boring would that be? It's because it is such flame bait as you so put it that it is a good poll. Polls are polls because there are multiple answers. A one answer poll is redundant. A good poll is a good poll because it shows how divided we are on the same topic.

And I apologise for talking about you and your boyfriend, that was not my place.

But I don't apologise for saying that this is a good poll.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

Kang Lin's picture

Meh. I'm too tired to argue.

Meh. I'm too tired to argue. I just don't like seeing a group (bisexual) within a minority (queer) singled out for attack. After all, we're all in this together, right?

Sorry *hugs*

thehuman's picture

Thank you.

Thank you.

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

Why is their so much Biphobia

Why is their so much Biphobia? We do the Gays&Sratghts both hate us?
Howcome I don't even feel welocme here on osais where all kinds are loved.
Get over your Biphobia people!!!!!!!!!
"Here's Johnny" - Jack Nickelson, The Shineing

Kang Lin's picture

For the same reason as there

For the same reason as there being so much homophobia - baseless prejudice. I'd argue that bisexuals are the MAJORITY on Oasis. I can't ever recall a recent instance of biphobia other than the ridiculous statements made by gaybutsad below. All I see here is people taking offence to the responses to the poll but then going all defensive and saying that it was totally necessary. There's a word for this - "Trolling". I have absolutely no problem with bisexuals - had anyone bothered to read, my comment regarding unfaithfulness was a reference to past EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE, i.e. A particular field of reference, my experience with 3 bisexual teenage boys, 2 of whom decided that girls were more convenient, not a blanket statement about the sexuality. However, when people feel the need to wave a flag and say "Look at me, I'm being persecuted" in response to a single post which has already been refuted, then I have no sympathy. And why my anecdotal evidence was met with accusations of misunderstanding whereas those who posted positive experiences with bisexuals or negative experience with "biphobes" were lauded, God only knows. Frankly I as a homosexual am feeling extremely unwelcome here, merely for sharing my experience along side a vehement DEFENSE of bisexuality. What the fuck gives?

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

Kang,I sorry if offed you or

Kang,I sorry if offed you or anyone else. I franly don't see that many Bis here I'm sorry. It's just like when Ia sk for resures for BI I don't get anyreples or anything. I found someplace where Bis are welcomed with open arms. I wish we could get rid of all phobia wehter it is Bi or Gay. Sorry for part in this Kang&all the rest. I just come to osais sometimes&find gays posting things like Bis like me arnt' real. I guess that Jeff&Adrain would want all to get along.
"Here's Johnny" - Jack Nickelson, The Shineing

Patch's picture

To be fair here, you were the

To be fair here, you were the first to attack the poll. So in reality, you aren't as innocent as you may seem. FOr it seems to me that when you said below that "this poll is totally unnecessary and you know it" you too were guilty of "trolling." Plus, life would be a drag if we didn't have any points of contention. Everyone disagrees with somebody, and frankly, I am shocked that you are shocked.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

Kang Lin's picture

My point was that the poll wa

My point was that the poll was a troll. By virtue of the fact that we're all different and it contained particularly inflammatory personal options, it was quite obvious that people would end up at each other's necks. You wouldn't post a poll saying "Are black people real?" on an anti-racism site and I frankly see no difference in asking if Bisexuality exists on a GBLTQ site.

Patch's picture

Not everyone sees racism and

Not everyone sees racism and sexual orientation as the same kind of thing. Everyone knows that your skin color is genetic. Many people feel that sexual orientation is a choice. Even in the queer community, many people say that being bi is not possible, that they are lying, or choosing to date the other gender.

But other than that your comment rings true. But sometimes to effect change, we need to be outrageous, it gets people thinking.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

Ghobsa right, ven here I find

Ghobsa right, ven here I find hatred torward Bis. I wish peole loved us in our commuity. HINT HINT OASIS
"Here's Johnny" - Jack Nickelson, The Shineing

Ian's picture

It's odd, I never see biphobi

It's odd, I never see biphobia, only homophobia...
Despite the grades, the friends, the family, the accomplishments, my greatest feat is coming out.

Sesshoumaru s male lover's picture

I'm glad your life is so good

"Here's Johnny" - Jack Nickelson, The Shineing