Duct Tape Fairy's picture

My best friend is having serious issues with stress management. She is
stressing about everything, especcially college applications.
Now, I know that everyone stresses about college applications, but she
is driving herself insane over it. She has always stressed too much about
things, and I am starting to get worried for her. She started crying today,
and it was sort of out of nowhere. She doesn't like having people hug her
or mother her when she is feeling down, so I don't know what I can do. I
want her to know that I am there for her. I also wish I had some advice
to give her on how to manage stress, other than just reminding her to
breathe once in a while. She responds better to advice than to comforting,
so I think that if I did have some good advice to tell her, she might take
it. Anyone have any good advice on how to deal with dangerously high levels
of stress?


devildog's picture

She sounds like me

Wow, talk about deja vu. Well, a thing that helps me is breathing exercises, like where you take a deep breath through your nose then hold it for a few seconds, then breath out of your mouth. Also, yoga is a big help, it completely takes away all my stress. But if I'm REALLY stressed, then I'll take some anti-anxiety medication. If it's dangerously high, it will definetely help. Living with stress sucks.


Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Oscar Wilde

sugarmagnolia's picture

my best friend also hates bei

my best friend also hates being hugged, however touch is very much needed. i don't know if this would work for your friend, but i'll do things like playfully hitting her with a pillow. i usually get the crap beaten out of me in pillow fights, but it's a relaxing activity. i wouldn't recomend it if it looks like she's about to cry though... try doing a physical activity together, jogging, crab walks... anything like that. it's called proprioceptive input (feeling the position of joints and muscles in relation to each other) and occupational therapists will actually use it to help clients calm down and focus on an activity. perhaps that will help her to destress a bit, and focus on getting one thing done at a time. if you think she may be in serious danger, anxiety disorder type situation, you might recomend that she talk it out with a therapist.

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