Finally coming out to my brother...

rainbowboi's picture

So I've finally decided to come out to my brother. I feel really bad for not tellling him sooner, but nothing I can do about that now. I was just looking for some input on what you guys think of coming out in an email...? He's at college, so I dont see him that much, but I am going to visit him this weekend. The thing is, I'll be with another friend the whole time, and I'm just not brave enough to do it in person I dont think. My friend is telling me she thinks its kind of shady to do it in an email, and that my brother might be offended. I just think I should be able to do it however works for me. What do you guys think? Thanks!


savanh_person's picture

i sy to do it in which ever w

i sy to do it in which ever way you think is right...if you don't think that u would be able to say it to him in person or over the phone then i say use e mail...

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Nerienea's picture

I came out to my girlfriend i

I came out to my girlfriend in an email, awhile after I met her. She was understanding, and was not bothered that it was in an email, except that I apparently sent it from an email address I hadn't given to her (I could have sowrn that I had), so she wasn't totally sure it was me.

Of course, she'd been there. I still think your brother wouldn't be offended, especially if you explained why it was difficult/nerve-wracking to try to tell him in person. Decide based on how understanding he is.

adbak's picture

If I were you, I would stay a

If I were you, I would stay away from emails. At the least I would call him and tell him. You've lived with presumably all of your life so he at least deserves that.

Good luck!

jeff's picture


In person is best with family. You can always cheat, if you think you'll hesitate in person, and e-mail him in advance and tell him you have something important to tell him when you see him this weekend. Then, at some point, he'll likely ask what it is...

Allie's picture

My gut reaction is to say, "t

My gut reaction is to say, "tell him in person". It's just easier to read people's reactions in person so there is less room for mis-communication. In the end though, it's up to you to decide.

Hyacinthus's picture

In person

Yeah, you should tell him in person. To me it just seems like a more honest thing to do, plus you can read people's reactions better that way. As for myself I have used e-mail before but that was just because I wanted the one person to know before the word got around.

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