i'm exclusively gay and a male, and my best friend is an extremely homophobic but awesome guy who i love very much (in a non-sexual way, we're like brothers). about 3 days ago i told him i was gay and he took it suprisingly wel. and since then i've seen him twice for two fairly long and very in depth conversation about where we stand and what my being gay means to our friendship and what his boundaries are (being homophobic he makes a lot of gay jokes that i find offensive so i asked him to stop, but really he's being so good about it). the bitch part of this story is this, every time we talk, no matter how in depth and what i manage to dig out of him (tonight he confessed that he loves me (again brotherlike friendship)), everytime we talk it's like we're taking one step foward and two steps back! i think that maybe i'm being too honest, he wants to ask me questions that he's just not ready for the answers to. and he wants me to be honest, i've been lying to him about my being gay for four yers, i'm not about to start lying all over again, so i answer his questions and it just seems to take him furher and further back! AHH HTHIS IS SO ANNOYING!