will it ever get better?

Leanne87's picture

hey im 19 and ive been a lesbian for about 3 years now. ive been with my gf nearly a year now (shes my first) and we are currently in a flat together, and have been since october. we are really happy together...theres just one problem....my family.i told my mum in september about me and that i had a gf and she told my dad and brother and sister. only my mum dad bro and sister know out of my family and not one of them will talk about my gayness, my gf or anything like that. they have ever met her, dont want to meet her and wont allow me to talk about her. i work for my mum and dad so it is pretty difficult.i feel as if when im at work, i have to be a different person because i cant talk about her.i dont know if my parents will get over this or not. they know nothing about my gf apart from her age (17) so it cant be the who she is that they dislike. i dont know why they react like this. i just want everybody to be normal with each other and be able to talk and get to know her. they are fine with my sisters bf and my brother gf. they dont seem to give me a chance with this..it hurts. i cant help the way i feel.why different for me?? help please!!!

oldfoxbob's picture

You say cant I say can

Why cant you talk about the gf? Their rules?
Talk anyway. You dont live with rents any more
right? So whats stopping you? Do it matter of factually
such as Shilla (gf Name) and I were at lunch yester day
and saw this fab outfit... or...Shilla and I went to
the movie "crash" last night and it was so sad when
the guy..... Do not rub it in their face as they are
obviously not pleased with it. But by their not
firing you from job or disowinig you they do in a way
except it. Keep working on it. Do not let them stop
talking about your life after all it IS YOUR LIVE not theirs
OldFoxBob
You are Loved

oldfoxbob's picture

oops

Posted twice sorry!

oldfoxbob's picture

You say cant I say can

Why cant you talk about the gf? Their rules?
Talk anyway. You dont live with rents any more
right? So whats stopping you? Do it matter of factually
such as Shilla (gf Name) and I were at lunch yester day
and saw this fab outfit... or...Shilla and I went to
the movie "crash" last night and it was so sad when
the guy..... Do not rub it in their face as they are
obviously not pleased with it. But by their not
firing you from job or disowinig you they do in a way
except it. Keep working on it. Do not let them stop
talking about your life after all it IS YOUR LIFE not theirs
OldFoxBob
You are Loved