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Barium's picture

Well, I've realized lately that I don't want to have a sexual orientaion. I'm comfortable with myself enought not to have one. Sometimes I am ver charmed by guys. They are usually quite older though. But for the most part I am physically attracted and emotionally attracted to women. I dunno. I don't really believe in bisexuality... I think that you can't put a name on sexuality... It just happens. sometimes your attracted to one type of person, othertimes you're not. I don't normally like men but every once in awhile I'm rather curious as to what sleepuing with a man would be like opposed to a woman.


jeff's picture


Sounds like more work to not have a sexuality than to just accept you're bi, no? Any negative connotations bi has with you... isn't it easier just to shake them off and accept your definition of the word?

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Barium's picture

Why is it so important that I

Why is it so important that I label myself? I'm not in denial I just don't feel that my emotions are deep rooted enough to fit any labels. I am not shying away from labels just because I associate bad behaviours or words with them. If that were the case I would have never called myself lesbian because the words perverted, confused, abnormal, vile and sinful are associated with that word even though those words don't fit the label at all. I feel that perhaps completely defining which gender I prefer is not neccessary for myself right now. Isn't it harder to uphold an image of what homosexual/ bisexual/ heterosexual might be?

I'm sorry if I am being confrontational but I feel that I should stick up for myself on this matter in particular. I also feel that you don't understand the point I am now arguing.

Hyacinthus's picture


Well this doesn't mean you don't have a sexual orientation, it just means that you don't have the label associated with it. You cannot get rid of your sexual orientation. As for not accepting a label I am proud that you don't feel you need one. None of us really needs a label, but what jeff says does make sense. We shouldn't shy away from labels because of negative connotations. We must redefine the labels to fit ourselves so that we are confortable with them if we feel a need to use one.

"Persuasive speech, and more persuasive sighs,
Silence that spoke, and eloquence of eyes."
- The Iliad (bk. XX, l. 315), (Bryant's translation)