Lyonsgorar's picture

I am feelins so love deprived lately. Like I have nobody to lvoe in that way. Not just friend love. I really want a boyfriend but like I dont know ANY gay people who would go out woth me. I only knoew 3 and the one my age is taken and the two tohwers are 18 and 16....i just dont know what to do. i really want to meet new people. Im not sure how so does anybody know how? PLZ?

jeff's picture


A city the size of Santa Monica should have some sort of after school youth drop-in for gay youth, no?

That said, there is no way to seek out boyfriends at the exclusion of friends. My life is clearly richer by not having discarded people who didn't want to date me but became good friends. Also, some guy who is 13-14 is "taken" already? I'm not sure I would rule him off the market for all your high school years based on that.

Even so, becoming his friend only expands your social network of gay friends. if you get to know him and he knows others, then you get to meet other people your age.

Everything is incremental. You can't go from no one to having a boyfriend as easily as you can meet people your age, make friends, and then at some point, someone you meet is someone you want to know a lot better.

I'm a total myspace whore (and by whore, I mean I use it to sleep with people, I'm not on it often), so ADD ME AS A FRIEND

patnelsonchilds's picture

I know exactly how you feel.

I know exactly how you feel. When I was a teenager, I was sure that I would never ever find a boyfriend. I felt like my whole life was slipping by and I was missing out on what everyone else was enjoying. It's very painful and frustrating. One big advantage that you have now though is the internet. It isn't the same as having someone next door to smooch with, but at least you know that others are out there going through the same thing you are.

I don't see any Youth Organizations right in Santa Monica, but here's a list of most of the ones in California. I don't know California, so I'm not sure which ones, if any, are near Santa Monica. California Youth Org List

Another good website, besides this one of course, is the GYC. It has members from all over the world, maybe even some in your area.

Hang in there, my friend. I promise you, it gets better. I'm sure that's not much of a comfort right now, but it is the truth.

- Pat Nelson Childs

-Ruby-'s picture


I agree with Jeff- try looking for a drop-in centre in ur area. I've been to one, it was lots of fun. We just hung out and chatted and got a free dinner :o) There are all kinds of teen/young adult support groups out there- ones for black queer youth, jewish kids, christian kids, homeless kids, trans kids, etc. Sometimes they have coffee house/open mike nights where u can perform poetry or music or whatever. Sometimes they have a "gay prom" thing where they'll rent out a hall or a big gym and everyone gets dressed up formally, and it's like a party to make it up for kids who couldn't go to real prom with their same-sex date. I bet ull have a blast. Dont be shy, dont worry about going there even if ur by urself, the kids and staff are generally super nice and freindly ppl.

no one's picture

hey, well i have the same

hey, well i have the same exact problem, i can't meet anyone and i can't find any sort of youth group near me (i live in the valley)

Duncan's picture

I know exactly how you feel.

I know exactly how you feel. The best sorta thing to do is get involved with a gay/lesbian association or an extra curricular activity of some sort. L:ike drama... It's hard to find good boys... *sigh* (pat pat)

Courage is contagious... be strong, and soon you won't be standing alone.

Ginger's picture

it seems as though at least

it seems as though at least for me, sig others just kind of pop up when youre not searching frantically for them. just chill out and theyll come along.