can good friends turn into crushes?

wild-blue-yonder's picture

I’ve been wondering about this question a lot lately.

If you’ve been good friends with someone for a long time (say a few years), and never felt any romantic feelings for them at all, is it possible to somehow develop an out-of-the-blue crush on them, and to start to fall for them?
(I mean, I guess anything’s possible, but is it common?)

Just curious. Thoughts?

jeff's picture

Sure...

The uncommon part is reciprocation, though.

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raining men's picture

Second

I second that

"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suf-fer-ing"

tasteyourtears34's picture

i think this is very likely.

i think this is very likely.
whos to say that this wont happen.
you can be innocent child hood friends and then you'll notice something about them you havent seen before...
or you connect better than ever and you think 'wow, i really like this person'

thats my take.
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Toph's picture

Yes

After several years, it is logical for someone to fall in love with their friend. There is already a love between the two, and as years go by one may allow their love to develop and evolve to the next level. A friend is a good crush because they've always been there for you, you have things in common, you get along well, support each other, trust each other, rely on each other, and have already established so many other things that are necessary for a healthy relationship.

It's a very common ordeal. It's happened to some of my friends. Sadly, it usually results in emo-ism, but things settle and continue as usual. That's life for you.

May the spirits guide your every move...to assure you please her in all the right places XD

Uncertain's picture

Sure does... happens to me a

Sure does... happens to me a lot... sometimes it annoys me x_x and sometimes it scares me too

Cleopatra's picture

hell yeah!!

and a word of advice my fella, that's one difficult shit to deal with. i have a friend whom i really really like, (and last year i also had a crush who happened to be a friend of mine too.gee, this happens to me a lot!) and whenever i'm with her, i kindda feel awkward because i kindda feel awkward because i like her a lot, like you dont know how to treat her. sometimes, you give meanings to those simple things she does for you, which dont have any meanings at all.. you get to be confused a whole lot, and that's the hard part. you also do not know if you should tell her or not, because that might make or (usually) break your friendship, though im not hindering you to tell your friend you like her (in case you get to that point), but that happened to me...

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utter_insanity's picture

Yeah

Ohh, yeah, it's definitely possible. I know because it's happened to me. I've known my crush since we were four years old, but I didn't start having feelings for her until we were in fifth grade. (And I didn't even notice them until I was in sixth.)


~~Gay and Here to Stay~~

ForeverEndedToday's picture

yup. Your best bet is not to

yup. Your best bet is not to act on them though, been there done that had a bad relationship.

and god help you if you are a pheonix
and you dare to rise up from the ash
a thousand eyes will smolder with jealousy
while you are just flying back

Vindictive's picture

Whey hey, here I was thinking

Whey hey, here I was thinking I was the only one :-p

What your feeling isnt uncommen, as everyone else has said... and like they have said, think on it. Im not going to tell you not to tell your friend how you feel though, because although others might think its rare, I had a crush on a friend and now we are kind of together....

Love is friendship caught on fire

Adam A's picture

never happened to me...so i g

never happened to me...so i guess the real question here is why the fuck am i posting a comment!? good luck with u'r crush mate!

Y - GuRl's picture

uh huh

Yeah it happens for sure, for no reason at all and can catch you off guard. I've had crushes that go for only a few days/weeks on friends I've never been attracted to before. Nothing you can really do I guess.

E.mo's picture

Unfortunately, yes.This hap

This happens all the time. It is the only reason that I need to be checked into a mental ward, because this does happen. It is the only story everybody knows.
I think the real question we should be asking is

Can crushes turn into good friends???



^Wishful thinking of course^

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and never be afraid again.

Miss_Marla's picture

You Know...

I'm really not that sure how often it happens....but it DOES happen. I experienced it twice. My friend Jessica and I were close friends and nothing more...until she kissed me. That was a kiss I'll never ever forget. Anyway, now were broken up for good and that in unchangeable. So, in my world at least...crushes are hard to be close friends with, but it CAN happen. Good luck to those who can make that work.

In my opinion, it’s not a very good idea to date, or have intentional romantic feelings for, someone who you’ve know for a LONG LONG time or someone that you are extremely close to. This is because, as most of you probably know from experience, when you break up your life will break up, too. That’s not fun. Not fun at all. I mean, it’s okay to think that your friend is totally sexy. In a way, that’s good…I think, but to actually act upon it, well, I don’t know.

On the other hand….Jean Grey and Scott Summers {of X-Men} were super close friends…then lovers. That worked out, I guess. If you don’t count all the times that Scott accidentally slept with her freaking clone or with Emma Frost. Or when Jean freaking DIED a thousand freaking times!!!!!??? *laughs*

Whatever. I need sleep.

patnelsonchilds's picture

My experience has been that

My experience has been that friendships are a hell of a lot more precious than romances, so think very carefully before you trade one in for the other.

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Mjmoj's picture

nods head vigorously*

ABSOLUTELY. haha. it's possible cause it happened to me once.
my good friend started to like me and i was so freaked out. haha. best decision to do is jus to stay friends! then u wont lose the friendship,
and u still can have each other's company! :D

goldoro99's picture

in total agreementness

"However rare true love may be, it is still less rare than true friendship." - La Rochefoucauld

a beautiful sentiment, and (i think) true!

Riski_Call92's picture

Oh, definetly, it can

Oh, definetly, it can happen. I actually liked one of my friends for awhile not too long ago....But, with me, I like her, then I don't, then I do again...So it just might be that I really care for her. Lol.

~Prince Randi

mybigsecret's picture

hehe...duh they can!

yyyeeaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh......... like duh good friends can turn into crushes!...... if u ask me which one of my close friends i haven't crushed as yet..... well i wudn't have an answer......!!!!

Metasexual's picture

Friendship vs Romance

I think what happens many times is that feelings are confused. You can love a friend, and if both are able to be attracted to each other... well, you may think you have a romantic crush... when really, it's not. Unless you have fantasies with the person, then it's probably romantic.

If there is a romantic crush, I think it's best to keep the friend than risk a romance. It might even be reciprocated... but risking a potential lifetime friendship for a three month romance doesn't seem like a good idea.

hellonwheels's picture

yup....

I didn't think so, but I had one on a friend like a month ago, so I'd say yeah.

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