ReinbowGrl's picture

I have been a member of Oasis for something like 2 weeks and 4 days. I have spent years searching for this place where absolutly everybody could relate. Some place where I wouldn't have to deal with prejudice and homophobia. And then suddenly, I stumble upon this place that is everything I have ever dreamed about and much more. I love all of you who leave me comments on my posts. Having some place where I can write and speak my mind...it's like coming home, it's safe here. Finally finding this place I only dared to dream about in my wildest fantasies, is amazing.
I come from a home where I was always told it wasn't MY house, it was HIS house, that my place in it is negotiable. My mother, in knowing about my girlfriend, is delusional. Assumes that every part of my life is consumed by my gayness. Because I am just SOOOO GAY. I am involved in this sub-culture of being gay, seeing as I have no ethnical culture of my own. I was this child, born to these people who don't understand what love is like. My history ends there. They greet with 3 quick kisses at night, and fight constantly. Their acts of affection are out of necessity and habit. I don't know how people that stiff can commit the act that would bring a child into this world. They are my parents, and intimate moments, if they existed ever, do not occur. When I was little, on the weekends, they would tell me they were taking a nap together, and in my 10 year old mind, I thought, oh how cute, mommy and daddy are tired and want to be together. I'm 16 and that delusion lasted until about last March. I mean, my god. Eww. And it's not disgusting because they are my parents and the thought of the hetrosexual sex act grosses me out, its how innocent I was. I had this sweet little picture of marriage in my naive mind. Mommy and Daddy loved eachother and liked to wake up in each others arms, thats why they took "naps" together. Now, my girlfriend and I take naps together...and it's not so that nobody knows we're getting a little nookie...it's because we've been over dosing on nookie for the last 6 hours. But when we sleep, it is the sleep of people in love, we fall asleep in eachothers arms and wake up exactly where we fell asleep. Her and I are that naive picture I had in my mind. Everything I wanted and so much more. Things I could never find in a boy or even a man. She is that perfect partner and the person I will marry and continue to paint our queer picture with for the rest of my life. And I am young and things change, but the worst is over.
TOPIC CHANGE: I want to submit something for the Gay Like Me project, but having read some of the submissions in progress, I cannot write like that. These stories are fantastic and I have nothing that could ever measure up to them. Nothing that ever happened to me. My coming out was fairly easy. Unless I make it up, I have nothing. I could write a poem or submit a picture, but I feel like I have too much to say for that. I have to think about it...And set aside time for writing.


poissonrouges's picture


You have no idea how closely my story parallels yours. From the loveless family and sweet (but at the same time upsetting) naiviette to finally finding people you connect with and someone to love.
The one difference is that you sound more strong and optimistic than I am; you've given me hope.

I know there's "black sheep," but what about rainbow ones?

Toph's picture

You baffle me. I thought I

You baffle me. I thought I was reading your submission for the GLM project. How can you think it impossible for you to write beautifully, yet you wrote this?

I really like it. It's deep. It shows the perspective that love isn't quite that simple. It shows that even though your parents shared heterosexual "naps", their love was nowhere near the pureness and affection that is shared between you and your girlfriend.

I strongly recommend submitting this because I really enjoyed reading it, and I'm sure others will, too.

~May the spirits guide your every move...to assure you please her in all the right places XD

love__x's picture

The very first paragraph you

The very first paragraph you wrote, about this place being everything you dreamed of, is exactly how i feel. this place is like the perfect getaway for me, to be who i truelly am.
When it comes to the gay liek me project, just write your story, it migth be fasinating to someone else, like sombodys is facinating to you. Its your story and you should write it that way, liek its your story and nobody elses. The way you write about what love is, is beautiful, the way your write liek that would make your entry very interesting and beautiful.

Hobbit's picture

i agree with toph, you

i agree with toph, you should submit the thing about taking naps to the glm project. it was really well written and i thought it was an original deep observation. glad you found us at oasis, you finally put into words how i feel about this place.

hugs, luck, and peace

and none has conquered but love
a girl's glance working the will of heaven
pleasure to her alone who mocks us
merciless aphrodite
- anitgone, ode III

lookin to the future...'s picture

you have a ton to write....

i think what you wrote was great!! really it was..... believe me there is always going to be someone out there who is really touched by what you say... you have a great story and i really encourage you to submit it... go for it!:)

patnelsonchilds's picture

Don't be silly. Your writing

Don't be silly. Your writing is wonderful. The guys are right, you really could submit this.

- Pat Nelson Childs
"bringing strong gay
characters to Sci-Fi & Fantasy"