i see a lot of GLB, but not T

jiordyn's picture

Is anyone else on here transgender/transsexual? I'm going through kind of a rough time getting to know and accept myself and I won't be able to start transitioning at all for another year or two - I'm still a minor living with my mom and I know she won't be very accepting. Right now, I bind and pack when I'm at school, then quickly change before I get home. Back in september, after a year of figuring things out, I came out to some of my friends and they seem okay with it, but still refer to me by my legal name. Only two of my friends really try to call me Zak, and it's discouraging. Has anyone else gone through this? Any advice?

I would also like to know what steps need to be taken when I am finally ready and able to transition into a male body.

Basically, I just need a little hope... I'm slowly, but steadily, getting depressed.

Thanks,
ZJ

the mouse that roared's picture

well

I'm sorry to say I'm not trans, but I am questioning my gender. I think I might be genderqueer, but I haven't come out.

There are a couple of trans kids on here. There are definitely not as many--I think it's not as common. That doesn't mean there hasn't been trans kids on here in the past. Try searching old journals to see if you can find a bit of company too.

It sounds rough, though. Hugs and support!

No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless; there is too much work to do.--Dorothy Day

jojojo's picture

I am not trans. sorry. check

I am not trans. sorry. check out AIdan's journal, if you haven't come across it yet.
http://www.oasismag.com/user/aidan
good luck!!

We have all been injured, profoundly. (Donna Haraway)
I Am Out, Therefore I Am. (Okay, mostly.)

Floral Arrangements and Love Secrets's picture

I am. NOt easy.

I am. NOt easy.

Inkblot's picture

Hm

I might be, and I'm definately pretty damn genderqueer. Hang in there dude, we'll be here for you.

Do I shock you darling?
-Sally Bowles, Cabaret

sam16's picture

question

i feel like i should know this by now....but what is "genderqueer"

Patch's picture

Correct me if I'm wrong. . .

Genderqueer means you can compare yourself to both genders, and/or you don't really group or consign yourself to one or the other.

At least that's how my best friend back home told it to me, and he was genderqueer, and i don't strictly consider myself one or the other. I like my sex organs, but if I had a vagina, I wouldn't mind either. In fact, I want to one day give birth naturally. One of those dreams of mine.

"What is the purpose of life? It is to live it."

psycolesbian's picture

my boyfriend is, and i love

my boyfriend is, and i love him very much!

If you dont take life into your own hands now you'll be lost forever. now is your time

dreamers imagine someday's picture

My best friend is, he is

My best friend is, he is having a roughtime dealing with other people at times. Especially considering he started his transition on the day of his graduation from an all girl's school (It was f-ing great because this one girl who was a total bitch to him throught school suddenly was nice to him...we don't know why, plus the teacher were all..."So now you really have excuse when we tell you to be ladylike, because let's face it you're not a lady.") Our school was nice about it. His parents weren't. But he is still in transition, and he makes for a very good looking boy. He came over to visit us ast school and all the girls were all over him... which was funny. But just persevere and life will be better, it takes a little time for friends to adjust. But I can tell you this, it gets easier with time.

V is the bomb, he blows with anarchy!!!

jiordyn's picture

thanks, everyone

floral arrangements and love secrets:
how long have you known, and how far into transition are you?

dreamers imagine someday:
i could never imagine going to an all-girl's school... i think my brain would explode!

Floral Arrangements and Love Secrets's picture

Well..

I've pretty much almost always known, in the back of my mind, that i am a girl.I'm not eve near transistioning,because i would be homeless if i were to transition. so its pretty much a whenever i can thing. I've been trying for a while. Message me if you want to talk or something. or if you have a messenger or something i orobably have it.
have a good day.

Floral Arrangements and Love Secrets's picture

Well..

I've pretty much almost always known, in the back of my mind, that i am a girl.I'm not eve near transistioning,because i would be homeless if i were to transition. so its pretty much a whenever i can thing. I've been trying for a while. Message me if you want to talk or something. or if you have a messenger or something i orobably have it.
have a good day.

Teiraa's picture

Hello Hello

Finally I found a few people like me! I have not transitioned yet, but I came out to my parents and they still love me. I think I'll start transitioning next year. My account may say I'm male, but I say different! :D
Send me a message or two if you want to talk. I haven't made many friends on this site yet.

QuakerOats's picture

Oh sweetheart, I know it's

Oh sweetheart, I know it's hard, but there will be people there for you. My best friend is trans, he just got his breasts chopped off. Um, transitioning to a male body....there's hormones you can take, which will thicken your vocal cords to change your voice (permanently), mess with your emotions for a little while until you adjust the dosage right, and redistribute body fat. sex-reassignment surgeries you have to see a psychologist for a while to get, I think, not in a cure-you way, but just in a to be sure this is right for you kind of way--- there are clinics in san francisco, I think, that deal specifically with trans-transitioning, double masectomies and so on. They cannot create erectile tissue, so...yeah, but with hormones you'll get kind of a miniature penis from your clitoris. I think there is a lot online about all this, and if you google the clinics you'll come up with stuff-- I believe the masectomy my friend got cost about $8000. also just remember that there are no requirements for being trans (you probably know this already but just making sure), it's about being yourself, and whatever you do to your body is your choice to make you feel good and comfortable-- it's not like it's a path you have to walk, some trans people aren't interested in surgery and so on.

try emailing Stef Diaz (male or gender-neutral pronouns) at stefd@studentorganizing.org
or Eli at
elijahf@studentorganizing.org
or Liaa Rea at
liaar@studentorganizing.org
they are all trans in some way or another (first to are MtF, and Liaa is genderqueer)
those are their official working addresses as student organizers for the gay, lesbian, straight education network, but I am sure they'd be happy to answer any questions.

Elijah's picture

Actually, Stef and I are

Actually, Stef and I are FTM. Just to clarify. And yeah. totally happy to answer your questions.

My Self's picture

im new to oasis..

im a 17 y/o trans guy in the sf bay area.. im on hormones and have my name legally changed and had my chest surgery, everything has happened really fast but not very long ago i was exactly where you are at. its tough, but you grow tough skin. try to be patient, i dont think transitioning ever ends.

paintthesilence's picture

Transboy here, too, but only

Transboy here, too, but only 16, and pre-well, pretty much everything. :P We're around. :)

cubby's picture

being trans sucks

being trans sucks sometimes.

it takes so long for people to even start accepting you!

im going through it right now, and its kind of the pits.

people mostly are starting to call me by the right gender, except at home, and a lot of people even use the right name [scout], so im getting somewhere...but its kind of an endless battle.

there is always hope though, and always community.

the future is bright, boy.