Last night i was just hanging out online and a girl asked me for my myspace (www.myspace.com/shock_basketball06). We had talked before but she does tend to get on my nerves and just really ticks me off sometimes and we've had our fights. She's asked about my crushes (thinking i was straight) and i said yeh you don't know them and gave details but i had stayed gender neutral.
So last night she checked out my myspace and found out that i was a lesbian and asked since when i had been a lesbian. I felt bad because it was almost lied to her in the past. But i explained to her that i was always a lesbian and was just careful to keep things gender neutral. And that she simply didn't ask the right questions.
She also asked about the difference in the relationship like which was easier. I've had no experience in either a straight or lesbian relationship so i had nothing to really compare anything to. So i just told her that every relationship is different. She could date 2 different guys and each relationship would be different and that it's about the personality and the person not the gender. I've been asked what relationship is easier by several people and don't really have an answer i just say each one is different.
My questions to all of you are
1) Is keeping things gender neutral okay, like not coming out just because they didn't ask specifically if you were gay?
2) What would you say to someone who asked which relationship is easier?