Labels. Who needs 'em?!

tayz's picture

Well. I'd better introduce myself since I've kinda been an invisible member of oasis.
Meaning I'd visit every day. Read posts and journals and just not log in or comment or anything else.
Quite embarrassing really =]

Well. For almost a year I've considered myself to be bi.
Not fad bi.
Not fashionably bi.
Not 'in between' bi.
But actually quite assured and happy with my Bisexuality.

However latelyyy I've begun thinking maybe I'm actually a lesbian?
It feels really weird to say/write that actually.
I've got alot of 'bi' friends. Ex girlfriends. And "unsure" guy-friends.
But I'm not actually friends with a real out lesbian. Or even a closet lesbian for that matter.

Plus I go to an all girls private catholic school so it's kind of a taboo issue :|

Lately I've decided to stop trying to figure out what to class my sexuality as.
I'm sick of pondering "Am I bi? Am I a lesbian? Am I something else that theres no overly used label for :O?"
So I'm going to start referring to myself as queer.
Because honestly. I have no idea what my sexual orientation is.
All I know is that I'm not straight =]
And I'm happy with it. Hehe.
I do like girls alot more though. :D

Okay. So. Thats my mini rant for now =]
I'll probbbably come post more now that I've written this one.
And hopefully get to you all you guys/girls better :D

Much love!


jeff's picture


Glad you finally joined the conversation here.

"Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there." -- Josh Billings.

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Hobbit's picture

glad you stopped being

glad you stopped being invisible, not nearly as much fun as speaking up. queer is what i identify as too, i love it because i'm reclaiming a word, not having to define myself, and not saying i'm bi when i might not be.

hugs, luck, and peace

and none has conquered but love
a girl's glance working the will of heaven
pleasure to her alone who mocks us
merciless aphrodite
- anitgone, ode III

haNa's picture


It's good to have you.

You should be reinforced by your sexuality, not defined, I think. Though I identify as a lesbian, I know that if I did become attracted to a man I wouldn't think "that's not rights, I'm a lesbian." You should never have to define yourself, and, in all seriousness, just be true to yourself.

Good for you!


pink hair on girls's picture

i identify as queer too. . .

i identify as queer too. . . i think labeling is stupid becuz, u know, sexuality is always changing. and i like girls and guys but girls more and sometimes guys more its always changing so theres no point in labeling . . . . queer works with everything.
make love not war . . . . or be abstinent and bomb everybody!!!!

pink hair on girls's picture

thanks for that post . . . .

thanks for that post . . . . ive been wondering that same thing for a while now, am i bi or lesbain, but i think ur right, labels arent worth anything. thanks!
make love not war . . . . or be abstinent and bomb everybody!!!!