Anyone want to help with my Teen Homosexuality project?

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dammit...i hate procrastinating. my photojournalism project (as i mentioned in other posts) is due THIS FRIDAY!! i didn't take my pictures yet or start writing my article...OMG i feel so stupid now. well today she said that she'd be lenient about our black and white photos that we have to develop ourselves (if we have a problem getting it, imma just say i do lol) On the otherhand i have to get my digital photos and start writing my article...*SIGH*...i feel so stressed out, too much on the mind.

well...the point of this post wasn't to complain lol...it was to see if anyone wanted to answer a few questions for my article...yeah it is gonna be in my article (no name or anything personal will be shared just the answers to my questions). it's supposed to be people from here but i don't have much time left and i wanted to hurry and get this done. so here are the questions;

*** YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T WANT TO, I'M JUST TRYING TO GET INFORMATION FROM PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY KNOW HOW IT FEELS AND STUFF RATHER THAN FALSE INFORMATION READ ONLINE, THIS IS AN OPTION***

[In and Out of the Closet];

* What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
* If you don't consider yourself anything or don't like labels, why?
* When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
* Have you came out to anyone?
* (If yes) How did they react?
* (If no) How does it feel still being "in the closet"?
* How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
* What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
* Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
* How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
* How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
* (If religious) How does your religion/church feel about homosexuality?
* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?

**if there is anything else that you think that i missed and want to share, please feel free to let me know. thanks for your time :)

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underdarkness's picture

My answers

What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
Though I really don't like labels, I consider myself gay. I find that it's really hard to not call yourself gay when you're a guy who likes other guys and is sexually un-attracted to the female sex.

When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
I really first put a word to my sexual and personal emotions when I was around thirteen years old. Before that, I always sort of knew that I'm gay, but I never said that exactly. I think I just repressed those thoughts and pretended that I was straight.

Have you came out to anyone?
This question is kind of funny for me. I've come out to just about everyone. My entire family knows, even my grandparents. I came out to my close friends about three years ago (I'm eighteen now) and came out to my parents over this past summer. When I came out to them, I felt the freedom to start a GSA at my school, so I couldn't stay in the closet from everyone else anymore. Everyone in my life (and a decent amount of those not) knows that I'm gay.

(If yes) How did they react?
As I think most gay people will tell you, it greatly varies from person to person. None of my friends really care anymore, but they were kind of freaked out when I first told them. My dad doesn't really care but my mom was a nervous wreck when I first told her. The rest of my family doesn't really talk about it, and those who care about it at school are usually the ones who feel the need to call me a "fag".

How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
Ever since I formed my school's GSA, I've been the resident gay kid. It feels nice not having to hide who I am from anybody, but it's a bit strange having it out in the open when I kept it hidden from everyone (even myself) for so long. It's both liberating and... annoying. A lot of kids take it upon themselves to point out that I'm going to hell.

What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
One of the biggest misconceptions that I come by is that since I'm gay, I'm bound to be sexually promiscuous. Hell, I'm still a virgin! I'm saving myself for that special "Prince Charming" who I can fall in love with and spend the rest of my life with.

Another common misconception is that, as a gay man, I want to be a woman. It seems as if people cannot make a separation between gay and transgender or transsexual (I really don't know which is which by their respective terms). I have no problem with people who have alternate gender identities, I just can't relate on a personal level to them. I love men and I love being a man. Simple as that.

Something else is that straight guys tend to assume that I want to have sex with them. I rarely entertain such thoughts about straight guys.

Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
The very definition of "misconception" means that it is a false idea. So, no, these misconceptions aren't true. Most of it is just a mix-up of terms.

How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
I don't think it really is handling the LGBTQ community at all. The government generally tries to pretend that sexuality doesn't exist.

How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
We need to make our schools safer by putting in anti-bullying policies in all schools across the country. Offenders of this policy would be reported to the appropriate school board for records on the offender in question.

* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?
I think that religion is often times used to justify hate. Christianity has been used to discriminate against blacks, women and homosexuals while claiming the exact same things about each. They're deceitful, sexually promiscuous, often times unnatural in their ways, punished in the Bible. I think that organized religion in general is a bad thing.

Well, there you go. Feel free to send me a private message to tell me what you think of my answers :P

- One Nation, Under Darkness

maianess's picture

Ooh, paper? yay!

What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
Still wondering a bit if I'm attracted to guys at all, but at this point, I'd say lesbian.

If you don't consider yourself anything or don't like labels, why?
Not against labels, but they shouldn't be so necessary. If people could just be 'not-straight,' it'd be nice...

When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
I never really liked guys, and had a few girls I idolized more than just a friend. Then I started actually crushing on girls around 8th grade, and really started coming to terms with it when I had a major thing for my best friend.

Have you came out to anyone?
Basically all my close friends, and my mom, plus anyone who can see my Facebook profile (changed it for the new year). I don't even try to keep it a secret any more.

(If yes) How did they react?
My mom was really okay with it, because her sister is a lesbian. Despite some pretty annoying reminders to "not close any doors," she's really good about it. All of the friends I've come out to have been really supportive--they don't mind talking about it, and they don't ignore it completely, and they treat it like just another part of me. It's amazing. And the first person I came out to--my best friend, who I liked--actually liked me back. So, maybe I'm a little biased from living in NYC, but coming out can have good results.

How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
Annoying when homophobes/idiots use 'gay,' 'fag,' etc. as insults, but it's not directed at me. I haven't exactly shouted my sexuality from a rooftop, but it's on Facebook and everything, and I haven't gotten any bullying or anything. My friends, like I said, are really cool about it; at sleepovers, I share crushes just like everyone else, I put down a finger for 'had a crush on a girl' in Never Have I Ever, they give me three girls instead of three guys for Do/Marry/Kill... we can joke about it and treat it like anything else.

What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
To begin with, that being a lesbian means you'll fall in love with every girl in sight. Because obviously every straight guy falls in love with every girl they meet, right? Also, the butch stereotype; I'm a bit tomboyish, but certainly not butch.

Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
Well... no, I think they're pretty stupid and misconceptions.

How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
Like we're destroying that sacred institution that gave Britney 55 hours of fun in Vegas. Gays aren't people, apparently. Argh, stupid, stupid conservatives...

How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
Treat us like people, recognize us, give us rights (for starters, marriage), protect us from prejudice.

(If not religious) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?
I think it’s pretty despicable to use religion as an argument against homosexuality, because it’s not even a real argument, and it’s basically just a justification for a blind belief that homosexuality is “wrong.”

Hope this helps! Luck on the project (I want to know how it goes), and sorry if I pretty much rephrased UnderDarkness's answers for the last questions, but he pretty much got it all.

Life is short: make fun of it.

Ginger's picture

What do you consider

What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
i dont really care, i like who i like. although usually the people i like have a vagina, its really not a set rule.
* If you don't consider yourself anything or don't like labels, why?
ugh. where do i begin? sexuality and anything dealing with humanity is fluid, and its this fluidity that is the vital essense of existance. labels dont really serve a constructive purpose, they do nothing but confine. if you are attracted to someone, you are attracted to someone. why make it complicated? there is no way that we can fully understand ourselves, so why assign a confining label for no other purpose than to give people the illusion that they know us when we in fact dont fully know ourselves? i guess i would have to sum up how i feel about this with a wittgenstein quote: "Whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent" (this is a translation, i dont know the original german.) there arent four or five different set types of sexuality. if they were that straightforward and clean-cut then people probably wouldnt have as much of a problem assigning themselves to a catagory. its impossible to fully describe such a complex thing because of the limits of language. so why try when it does nothing but close doors for you?
* When did you first think/realize that you were that way? first in 6th grade, then all the sudden the message "queers are icky and just want sex" was coming at me from everywhere, and i decided that since i was neither icky nor was i just looking for sex, that i must not be queer (okay, so maybe it wasnt that clear cut, but you get the gist!)
then again in 10th grade, where my best friend told me she was queer, i freaked out, and then i realised i was queer, and i freaked out even more!

* Have you came out to anyone?
yep! anyone and everyone
* (If yes) How did they react?
-my dad will no longer sit by me or get within a few feet of me/ alot of more awkward things that i wont talk about here.
my gay friends now send me pride parade fliers with the message "i think it would free your soul" attached (apparently im not gay enough?)
+ some friends were very homophobic when i met them, and now turned down a marriage proposal because they didnt want to get married in a system that doesnt allow gays to marry!
- i lost some "friends"
* (If no) How does it feel still being "in the closet"?
* How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
school is really great because of the teachers, but not so great because of the students sometimes because its a boarding school. a good number of the staff is lgbt, and almost all are very supportive. this year im a senior, and for some reason the younger crowd is under the illusion that im cool (funny considering im the most awkward person on earth!) so nobody really questions me or gives me shit about it unless they dont know im gay. (like homophobic remarks.)
* What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
that we are premiscuous (sp?)
* Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
sometimes. i think that when theyre misconceptions like that then sometimes people take it as permission to act that way, because if youre going to take the heat for something, might as well be engaging in the pleasurable activity!
* How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
i think that they arent taking us seriously, partially because we havent really had a widespread effort to be taken as such. (not necessarily for lack of effort, even though in many sectors thats lacking too, but for lack of... organization and direct (nonviolent of course!) action.
* How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
basically i think that the government should stop putting religious views where they dont belong!
* (If religious) How does your religion/church feel about homosexuality?
* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?
I think that its time for people to stop hiding their predjudices under a thin veil of illogical assertions with little foundation in the actual religion under the banner of religion (*cough* modern day christianity *cough*).

i dont think that you should believe as your religion says, i think that your religion should say as you believe. if you believe its wrong, then recognize that since it is a self-contained experience (it doesnt really directly affect anyone but you until other people involve themselves in it), then any views you hold against it should be directed to the self, not expected to be held as universal truths. I respect your belief as a personal decision, but i also respect mine and my right to it.

sorry i wrote a small novel! good luck with your project! ( i would really really really like to see the pictures! im majoring in photojournalism at the moment)

dykehalo's picture

* What do you consider

* What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
II'm not a big fan of labels. I feel that love is love and if it happens it happens. However I do consider myself a lesbian. But i'm not ruling it out that maybe one day i could possibly fall for a guy.

* When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
I first realized in grade 6 when i fell for my cousin's girlfriend at a Christmas Party.

* Have you came out to anyone?
All of my friends know. Most have known for at least a year or two. My Sister knows as well she's known for over a year now. My mom and dad do not know.

* (If yes) How did they react?
I've lost a couple friends here and here and i get called things by people at school who know but most have reacted really well. And have just stood by my side.

* (If no) How does it feel still being "in the closet"?
To be in the closet to my mom and dad truly SUCKS!! I hate keeping this secret from my mom. But i know that the other option of telling her and the possible dissapointment would suck even worse.

* How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
At time's school completely sucks because there are always homophobic remarks thats gay your such a fag just joking around to ohter people but for those people who are gay it hurts soo much.

* What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
That we are all pedophiles when we grow up. That we hit on anyone of the gender we are interested in.

* Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
No i don't because there are straigh pedophiles. And we are jsut like straight people who don't nevessarily hit on everyone of their choosen gender.

* How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
Well i live in Canada so the goverment is handeling the community pretty well. I don't watch the govmnt stuff too much. But i know i can get married and i like having that option.

* How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
I don't think that they should take so long to decide things. What's there to decide? We are huan beings who feel, love, laugh and live.

* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?
For those religions who say that god said the homosexuality is wrong but also say that god made everyone of us and he loves all his children and we should love everyone now matter what i just don't get any of you. Did god not make us? Are we not his children? Doesn't god love everyone? How do you really know what god wants have you met him?

~~~NO DAY BUT TODAY~~~

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here ya go

hey girl, im glad to help with ur project. primary research (thru interviews/questionaires) is always the best, in my opinion.

-What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
I consider myself gay, although i really disagree with the idea of categorizing ppl's sexuality. a person's orientation involves their unique physical, sexual, emotional and intellectual characteristics. it's too fluid, complex, and personal to be reduced to a simple one-word label like "gay" or "bi" or "straight".

-When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
when i was 12 i developed an intense crush on a girl in my class. it lasted for about 2 years. i denied it and kept it secret in a very deep dark place inside me... but i could not honestly tell myself it meant nothing.

-Have you came out to anyone?
i started to tell people i was bi about a year ago. eventually i got into some intense relationships with women, and i realized that it felt more genuine. now if anyone asks i will say im just into girls. Pretty much all my friends know, my immediate family, some of my co-workers, my aunt, etc... its not something i keep secret anymore, because when i hide it, i feel like its something bad and shameful and i dont want to believe that.

-(If yes) How did they react?
my mom was pissed. she told me she hoped it was "just a stage" and that i would start dating guys again. i explained that might never happen, and tried to express how i had always liked girls and being with a female just feels right to me.
My friends were pretty cool about it. i noticed that after i came out, girls would start telling me about how they're bi-curious, and asking me questions about sex between two women, all these things they were afraid to talk about before. if i inspire other ppl to liberate themselves, thats really kewl and im glad to help.

-How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
It's been good since coming out, because if my freinds and i are somewhere in public i can say that i think a girl is hot, and its no big deal. they talk about who they're dating, and i can talk about the girls i am dating or interested in. its become much more comfortable. sometimes i go to gay bars with my friend who is also queer. its definitely an expereince and its kewl to see a lot of other gay women, but its not a place i would want to be all the time. its pretty crazy and wild and sometimes it feels like a lot of pressure.

-What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
People think that lesbians are all butch and want to be men. That could not be further from the truth. Yes, some women do prefer to express themself thru traits that are traditionally considered "masculine" and/or wear clothes from the men's section. Personally, I consider myself female on all levels, i dress traditionally "feminine", i love being a woman and i wouldn't feel comfortable dressing or acting like the men i see around me. Basically ppl think that all gay women are the same, when really there is so much amazing diversity among the community.

-How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
Canada has changed a lot over the past few years in terms of legal rights available to homosexuals. In my province Ontario, same sex marriage is allowed now and i think it's great that the government is finally recognizing this.

-How does your religion/church feel about homosexuality?
I was born into a Jewish family. we observed some holidays and traditions, and i went to Hebrew school, Jewish camp, and Israel. I was not raised to be religious, and i don't believe in several of the laws and practices that form the basis of the religion. It does not accept homosexuality, and although there are some obscure sects where it is accepted, the religious community in general views homosexuality as wrong. I hope this will change over time and the synagogue will teach Jews to celebrate people of all orientations.

corcra-carraig's picture

* What do you consider

* What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
gay female physically, genderqueer gender wise.

* If you don't consider yourself anything or don't like labels, why?
labels restrict.

* When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
I've pretty much always known and have been told I am different. I always deviated from the norm as a child. It was a known and acknowledged fact. First time I realized I fit the description of a commonly used word, gay it was at age 12, genderqueer at 14.
* Have you came out to anyone?
Yes, I only had to actually say I was gay twice, everyone else presumes. I am still technically in the closet though to my parents.

* (If yes) How did they react?
"uh, I know, but thanks for telling" was basically the reaction of both of them
* (If no) How does it feel still being "in the closet"?
stuffy, irritating, stress-inducing

* How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
Fine...my school is very nonchalant about any differences. Sport wise i fit in better with my one team since I am the only female.

* What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
that it's a huge part of who we are. since we need to announce it.

* Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
Yes, because society basically requires that we do announce it, and it does have a major impact on other areas of our life, for example our ability to date and to get benefits and all of our "partners"

* How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
currently, badly. they don't acknowledge all the problems that are still negatively affecting us.

* How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community?
More recognition.

* (If religious) How does your religion/church feel about homosexuality?
The Roman Catholic Church is generally unaccepting but between different parishes, churches, and religious figures the thoughts and acceptance rates vary. One of our former bishops knows I am gay and still said he loved me and did not restrict me from teaching sunday school or being an altar server.

* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality?
I am agnostic, just raised in the church. I feel as if they are hypocritical for the most part.

hellonwheels's picture

What do I consider myself

What do I consider myself sexuality wise? Gay.

Why don't I like labels, even if I use them constantly myself? because they degrade people and isolate them, making kids feel like a lower form of life.

When did I first realize I was gay? About when I was eight years old, but in someways' I've always known.

Have I come out to anyone? Yes, my psychiatrist and my friends on this site.

How did they react? As well as I could have hoped.

How does it feel still being in the 'closet' ? It feels like a hell I cannot escape. I, already having more of my share of mental health issues, feel totally burdened by this...it is an unnescessary burden and I would rather live without it. But I cannot escape it, because in my case, coming out would most likely mean death.

How is my social life? Basically, non-existant. I see people from work occasionally, and occasionally a friend might want to see if I want to go riding or boarding, but that is about the extent of my social life. People don't want to be friends with a psychotic, living trainwreck...lol.

What do I feel are common misconceptions about GLBTQ people? Umm, everything. I personally think that very few queer kids today fit any of the old, stereotypical views that people have. I for one, know nothing about fashion, am not loaded, do not act effeminate, speak with a lisp or do anything out of the norm for a guy...I am simply a normal guy...I like cars, guns, boats, fishing, hunting, hiking, sports, football, and all the kind of stuff 'normal' guys do. I am just a normal guy...the only difference between a straight guy and myself, ultimately, is who I have sex with and am attracted to.

How do I feel the government is handling GLBTQ society? I don't think they are handling it. People make something that should not be a political thign into one. I do feel that through faith-based initiatives and faith-based programs funded by the government, we are being degraded slightly, and they are trying to say that gays can be 'changed' miraculously through programs that are funded by Bush's faith-based initiatives.
I personally am not religious, as I have seen far too much death and suffering in the world on decent people that would have been prevented by a deity that supposedly 'loves' us all and forgives our sins. I honestly believe the bible was the word of man, not god. However, my mother's church, the United Church if Christ, is very open to gays and invites them to join their congregation.

How do I feel about religions against homosexuality? I feel that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, however, in most religions against homosexuality, there exist other passages, contradictory passages, that spread a message of forgiveness and empathy, not condemnation. It all depends on the personal interpretation of the message in the scripture, which in my opinion, is why organized religion will ultimately divide and ruin the world.

hope this helps...good luck w/ the project.

Mental wounds not healing, driving me insane, i'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train- the ozzman

TheInsideLlama's picture

questions

* What do you consider yourself as; sexuality wise?
Gay
* If you don't consider yourself anything or don't like labels, why?
They sometimes no matter what upset me at times due to my mom's dealing with my sexuality things like "fagboy" even from a friend would annoy me....
* When did you first think/realize that you were that way?
always thought there was something different, didn't realize until i was about 12-14ish around 6th grade
* Have you came out to anyone?
yes and no
* (If yes) How did they react?
some good some bad... my mom had it bad and some "friends"
* (If no) How does it feel still being "in the closet"?
places I'm closeted in
* How is social life? Either In or OUT of the closet (school, sports, etc)
Fine, sometimes a little lonely but it's fine...
* What do you think are the most common misconceptions about LGBTQ?
* Do you think any of those misconceptions could be true? Why?
sometimes yes , sometimes no depends on whats said and how it's said to me.
* How do you think the government is handling the LGBTQ community?
they need to improve on it
* How do you think the government should change concerning the LGBTQ community? better rights at federal and local level in ths us and most of all MARRIAGE RIGHTS
* (If religious) How does your religion/church feel about homosexuality?
* (If not) How do you feel about religions against homosexuality? it pisses me off when i hear about religions "saving people" from being gay....