It was kindof an accident, but at this point, these guys are going to find out one way or another.
Okay, these guys live across the hall from my dorm and they are not very GLBT friendly. It's not that they are hostile, but gay people are very often the but of their jokes, their not very funny jokes. Some of them have also been hitting on me, which I don't like very much at all, so I know I have to set them straight (ha!) sooner or later.
I have already told my roommates, and they have been wonderfull. They hardly know any gay people, but they have been great. They ask good questions, they are supportive, and they are trying to learn more.
There was a party here last night and everyone was here. There was a lot of drinking, and my grand plan was to announce that I am calling it a night, turn to my room, shout "I'm QUEER!!!" and then shut the door.
Things did not go as planned. People left before I got a chance to make my grand exit. I mentioned to my roommate that my wonderful plan had been dashed, she knows that I have been trying to get up the courage to tell the guys, and I didn't notice that one of them was still here.
So yeah... he knows now.
I told him that I am bi, but mostly gay, which is exactly how I feel right now. (Is it normal for bi people to feel completely gay sometimes and then just mostly gay other times?)
He was okay with it, but he asked a lot of really dumb questions.
"So when you look at a girl, do you look at them like guys do?"
"How do you know you are gay?" ...that one was easy to answer at least, I said "well, how do you know you are attracted to girls?" he seemed to understand that at least
He also didn't know anything about what lesbians do, and I didn't feel like enlightening him. I told him to look it up.
god, I hope it isn't this weird when I tell the others
but I want everyone to know because I am serious now
I really want a GF, and I don't want them to find out the wrong way, make a scene in front of someone I am trying to impress or something.
Can anyone give me some comming out advise for telling people like this who know practically no other gay people?