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yup yup. i was trying to start my article/paper, so i had some ideas about some other questions to ask...i'm also wearing my glasses, which as times makes me feel a lil more smart lol. okie well anyways;

* What was the most negative/positive thing have you gone through because of your sexuality?

* Were there ever times that you wished you weren't this way?

* If you had the chance (which is now lol) what would you want people to know; either about your own sexuality or LGBTQ in general?

* Are LGBTQ relationships the same as straight relationships?

* (If not) How are they different?

* Have you ever been in LGBTQ youth support groups?

* (If yes) How was it?

* Have you ever been bullied because of the way you are?

* (If yes) How was that handled?

* (If no) What if you were what if you were bullied?

* What do you think about the people who think that Homosexuality is a disease that can be cured?

* Who is a positive influence in your life? Why?

...blah that's all i can think of at the moment but i might try to get more questions out tomorrow...i know i know...i'm running out of time but i'll get it done. and* REMEMBER YOU DO NOT NEED TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO*

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* What was the most

* What was the most negative/positive thing have you gone through because of your sexuality? Negative-having to lie for a long period of time about myself to those who I love and respect most, and getting good at it. Positive-affirming who my true friends are.

* Were there ever times that you wished you weren't this way?
Yes.

* If you had the chance (which is now lol) what would you want people to know; either about your own sexuality or LGBTQ in general? Sexuality and gender isn't everything. It is made a big deal because mainly of politics, and since there are so many of us we shouldn't be stereotyped as much.

* Are LGBTQ relationships the same as straight relationships?
No.

* (If not) How are they different?
I think there is a higher amount of understanding and...evenness? Because the stereotypes of the male having to such and such, and the female having to do this or that is changed, since obviously both cannot live up to those things.

* Have you ever been in LGBTQ youth support groups?
no

* Have you ever been bullied because of the way you are?
Bullied, not really.

* (If no) What if you were what if you were bullied?
What? I haven't been bullied because people don't give a fuck, and I have a very tough exterior. I have always been different, and since it has always been like this others learn to embrace it.

* What do you think about the people who think that Homosexuality is a disease that can be cured?
That they should think about curing themselves of ignorance.

* Who is a positive influence in your life? Why?
My Grandfather, because in his silence he was observant, caring, forgiving, and accepting. He died recently. I am also influenced by the ideals of Joan of Arc, Mister Rogers, and Roberto Clemente.

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* What was the most negative/positive thing have you gone through because of your sexuality?

Negative- having to hear people spread stupid stereotypes and misconceptions about me and other openly queer people.

Positive- being able to correct homophobic comments, and educate people a lil bit about my own experience or what it is really like to be queer. helping ppl be less ignorant. answering people's questions and having a good attitude about it.

* Were there ever times that you wished you weren't this way?

YES. For about 8 years of my life. I hoped it would go away. Finally i realized that i AM this way, and it’s not going to change. I chose to live my life as honestly as possible. I learned how to view my sexual orientation as a positive thing instead of a negative thing.

* Are LGBTQ relationships the same as straight relationships?

Sometimes, not all the time.

* (If not) How are they different?

When you are queer and you are in a relationship with a queer person, you have all the normal pressures of a relationship PLUS the added pressures of homophobia in society. you may feel that your friends, family, co-workers etc., don’t accept your relationship, or act awkwardly or disrespectfully to your partner. When you are in public together, random strangers may give you unfriendly looks or even make rude or tactless comments. It’s easy to say “I don’t give a ****”, but at the same time, it can be annoying, stressful and hurtful when these things do occur.

* Have you ever been in LGBTQ youth support groups?

Yes

* (If yes) How was it?

It was OK. I found out about it in the Toronto queer newspaper. I went because I don’t have many gay friends, and I was hoping to meet some queer young women that I could relate to. At this particular group, however, it was mostly gay boys and MTF trans people who are interested in males. The majority of them were sweet, nice, funny, and friendly. I could relate to them on some levels, but I felt that I would feel more comfortable discussing certain personal issues with another young adult who is a WBW (woman born woman). Anyway, they gave us dinner and the food was healthy and good. Some of the kids who came to the group told me they were stripping, and I think some of them may have also been involved in prostitution/sex work. I felt a little sad for them, but also good that they have this safe place where they can come to for support. It was a very eye-opening experience. Attending this group was worthwhile, although I don’t think it was the right group for me. But just because I didn’t find what I was looking for, it doesn’t mean you can’t. I have so much respect for the people who run groups like this- they are really amazing and so many people get so much out of it, more than I ever could. I would love to get more involved in the queer community and find a place where I fit in better, but I am still getting used to the idea of being out. It’s only been a few months, and when I feel ready I do plan to participate in more programs, activism, and anywhere else I can meet people or get/give help.

* Have you ever been bullied because of the way you are?

No, thank goddess.

* (If no) What would you do if you were bullied?

I don’t know. And I hope I never have to.

* What do you think about the people who think that Homosexuality is a disease that can
be cured?

I think they should learn this: you can’t wilfully change your sexual orientation, just like you can’t change your eye color. If you have blue eyes, you can put color contacts in to make your eyes brown. You can live your life as a brown-eyed person. But truthfully, you know the brown color is fake and that you really have blue eyes. That’s like if you are homosexual and you try to make yourself heterosexual. You can cover who you really are with a mask of lies. You can live a fake life. You can fool everyone but yourself.

*Who is a positive influence in your life? Why?

My friend Lindsey. She has helped me so much thru some of the most difficult times of my life. She has offered an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, and a hug when I needed it. She is queer too and she understands things about me that I feel most other people don’t. She has had a hard experience on this earth. She has suffered from depression almost her whole life and the first time she tried to kill herself she was 10 years old. She dealt with unsupportive parents, the betrayal of friends, and a medical system that damaged her physical and mental health. She has felt more pain and heartbreak than anyone ever should, and she’s only 21. So many people I know who have gone thru that kind of shit become cold, hard, and detached. They develop these defense mechanisms to protect themselves which hurt others and push them away. Lindsey is different, she has risen above and I look at her as such an inspiration. She is kind, strong, honest, courageous, and a genuinely sweet person. I want to be more like her.

Ginger's picture

* What was the most

* What was the most negative/positive thing have you gone through because of your sexuality?

negative- for awhile i let myself become someone ive never wanted to be, someone who doesnt speak up for what they believe, someone who feels its necessary to hide themselves. i was scared of the repercussions of coming out.

Positive- later on when i came out, i was proud of myself for having the courage to do so (as lame as that sounds)

* Were there ever times that you wished you weren't this way?

for a long long long time i wished i wasnt to the point of being in complete denial about it. from about sixth to tenth grade i made up excuses for myself so that i didnt have to face the fact that i was queer.

* If you had the chance (which is now lol) what would you want people to know; either about your own sexuality or LGBTQ in general?

sexuality really shouldnt be a big deal. i mean, until recently there werent words that were assigned to sexuality. it just was. you liked and slept with whoever it was that you liked and slept with. I hope that one day we go back to that.

* Are LGBTQ relationships the same as straight relationships?
im not really sure

* (If not) How are they different?
I think in alot of ways they move faster. theres not this expectation that you have to go through these... i dunno, steps? to date someone.

* Have you ever been in LGBTQ youth support groups?
nope
* (If yes) How was it?

* What do you think about the people who think that Homosexuality is a disease that can be cured?

I think that i really want to make brochures for a institution that cures people of being straight. i could pass them out at the doors to the local church ; )
no, seriously, i just think that theyre ignorant.

* Who is a positive influence in your life? Why?

my english teacher, for so many reasons. shes this uber-smart ivey- leguer (sp?), who isnt afraid to stand up for what she believes in. noone really knows why she teaches high school. she isnt afraid to say what alot of times her students are afraid to bring up. (she recently said "c'mon! yall are supposed to be the hormonal teenagers! why am i the only one talking about the lesbian lovin?!?". often she finds gay subtext in the wierdest places!). shes just very open with her life. shes dated men and women, but she doesnt really feel a need to make a big deal out of that, not because shes afraid to or anything, but because it just is. (she shaved her head and cross-dressed for six years because she "woke up one morning and felt like it." the woman isnt afraid to make a statement.

underdarkness's picture

* What was the most

* What was the most negative/positive thing have you gone through because
of your sexuality?


The most negative thing I have experienced would probably be homophobic comments
made towards me.

Positive: Because of this, I think that I am more enlightened about sensitive
topics.  I can't really explain it, but being on the outside has made me
see how flawed the "inside" really is.

* Were there ever times that you wished you weren't this way?

When I was younger, yes, but not anymore.  I wanted to be "normal", I
thought God hated me, I thought I was going to hell, so I wished I wasn't gay. 
I don't feel that way anymore, obviously.  I'm perfectly happy in my own
skin and nobody can ever change me... well, not only because it's physically and
mentally impossible, but because I like the way I am.

* If you had the chance (which is now lol) what would you want people to
know; either about your own sexuality or LGBTQ in general?

Just one thing: if you're straight, I don't want to f*ck you! In fact, if
you're gay, there's a pretty good change I don't want to f*ck you either.

* Are LGBTQ relationships the same as straight relationships?

In dramatics, yes, in the mechanics of it... obviously, no.  Gay
relationships can be just as dramatic as straight relationships.  There's
always the "Why didn't you call?" or "Do you like the way I look?".  Even
gay guys sometimes ask, "Am I too fat?"

* (If not) How are they different?

They're difference in the sense that sex is distinctly different, and I think
that gay couples often times relate to eachother more.  As a gay man, I can
generally tell what another gay man wants.  There's not many "What did he
mean by that?" type of things

* Have you ever been in LGBTQ youth support groups?

I tried desperately to start one, but my school hasn't really let me until
recently.  I had to threaten them quite a bit with the ACLU on my side.

* Have you ever been bullied because of the way you are?

Of course, it's a daily occurrence.  Hell, I live in the buckle of the
Bible Belt.  People take it upon themselves quite frequently to tell me I
am going to hell.  One day in study hall, before I came in and sat down,
some guy put a message on my desk that said, "Got Jesus? If not, cool, you're
going to hell." and for some reason, it had a picture of a cow on it.  I'm
not sure if they were calling me fat or suggesting that they're Hindu...

* (If yes) How was that handled?

I didn't do anything about it, but my friend Stephie got the vice principal
involved who threatened to kick the guy who did it off the wrestling team.

* What do you think about the people who think that Homosexuality is a
disease that can be cured?


I think that the people who claim to have been cured of homosexuality aren't
actually gay, I think they kissed or had sex with a member of the same sex and
thought they were gay and sought out some sort of group such as Focus on the
Family or NARTH. So, I think it's all a great misunderstanding that has been set because of sexual exploration.

* Who is a positive influence in your life? Why?

My speech coach.  It took some poignant words of wisdom from her to realize
that when I accused people of being homophobic I was no better than them for
making fun of me.