weird silent pause on the phone

andyouwillknowmebythesoundofmyname's picture

I told my mom I was bi about a month and a half ago.
When she called me today she wanted to know a good time to call back and she asked when I was out of class.
I told her that the last thing I have to do is the Queer Student Union meeting.

There was this long pause on the phone....
...too long....

Then she changed the subject.
She took it really well when I told her, perhaps she didn't believe me.
I did tone it down because I didn't want to shock her.

Maybe she was hoping it was just a phase or something.

It's hard to really feel upset about it though. I just got this amazing care package from her, full of chocolates and all sorts of goodies that she would just randomly pick up because she misses me.

Yeah, I am really close to my mom.

But this is one of the first really big differences between us.
Even though she is really cool (she actually encouraged me to have a lot of gay friends when I went away to college) it feels like this transition has been a bit...unnerving for her.

She has been really great all in all, but she hasn't been around me hardly at all since I came out as bi. She still thinks of me in the way I acted before I came out. I mean, I am still me, just more of me is all....


jojojo's picture

my mom has been similar to

my mom has been similar to yours. she seemed kind of okay with me having a girlfriend. But when I later got involved with queer student organizing, she was quite hostile. But she has been changing, as I have been working on her.
hope your mom will change too.

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