I became a member of gay.com today for no particular reason other than I was bored, and premium membership is free at the moment. And I've been a member of Gaydar for quite awhile. Flicking through the pages it got me thinking about the problem of promiscuity in the gay community, as it's one of the criticisms the right-wingers like to put out there.
The so-called community seems to be at odds with itself... On the one hand we seem to deny the fact that casual fucking is acceptable or practiced by the vast majority of gay people. Oh yes, we all love each other and we have happy relationships and we all want to get married to our soul mates. Pft. From my experience I would say the Elton John / David Furnish type relationship is much rarer than the slags out there. I might be gay and generally left wing, but whilst I don't judge others on their sexual practices, I can't help but sympathise with the criticism that there is too much sluttery in the gay community. The internet has infact highlighted this. Filling out a profile on a straight dating website asks your hobbies and interests. On a gay dating website, you end up specifying your dick size, whether you're a top or bottom, and how you like to be fucked. Oh, and your hobbies and interests too. I feel more obligated to explain my fetishes than I do to specify my name.
And then you go on to the profiles. Gay couples looking for group sex. 1-on-1 sex wanted now. Hot and horny up for a fuck. Blowjob Bill needing to get wet. Until I specified in my profile for people over 30 to not message me, I had almost daily messages being received by the over 40s wanting to meet up for a fuck.
And are these people actually gay? In trying to disassociate myself with these nymphomaniacs I've started to question whether a man sleeping with a man is actually what it means to be 'gay'. They seem incapable of a loving relationship, or if they have a boyfriend they want an open relationship or a threesome. Is that what it means to be gay? Sometimes I feel like an outcast of a bunch of outcasts!
So, does being gay mean you are a slut, or is it simply a natural result of widespread sexual oppression. I mean we can't behave normally, you hold hands in the street and you get looked at like you have two heads. So is it any wonder people don't feel like getting into a relationship but naturally have sexual urges, and these manifest themselves in cruising areas and online brothels. Just seems a bit too easy to blame it on society. I'm in the same boat as most other gays in the western world and I don't behave like that. That's not to say I'm a prude, or celibate, believe me. I just wish the young studs would stop all fucking each others best friends and having so-called "open relationships", and the old men would stop preying on people half their age. These actions have a more widespread negative effect on the rest of us.
Who am I kidding. Anyone up for a fuck? ;)