wilma wonka's picture

We all know that there is a stereotype about GLBQT people that they act like the opposite gender. I know that this is true for me but I don't know if it is true for anyone else or if homosexuality has anything to do with gender identity. So is this a myth or is it true?

the ghost's picture


I think there is a certain amount of truth in the stereotype.Some gay guys act very femme,some girls act very butch.But I think there is a large proportion of gay men/women who don't fit the sterotype.
I fit the sterotype sometimes I guess,I like wearing baggy jeans and hoodies,but I also wear skirts and make-up when I feel like it too.So I'd say there is a broad spectrum of people really.Not just strictly butch/femme girls/guys.Thats just what I think anyways.

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Lol-taire's picture

I think maybe a part of it

I think maybe a part of it is that if you're not trying to attract the opposite sex then normative gender roles stop being so important because your outside the framework they're created for. Like, you can pick and chose which bits apply to you.

Also for a long time transgender and homosexual people were regarded as more or less the same thing (with the former being just a more extreme version of the latter). So, there's been a historical confusion between the two.

But then although I'm clearly female, I still feel separate somehow from other girls. I really like the fact I have a female figure, but I sort of forget I have a gender from time to time. It's a little odd.

the ghost's picture

I agree

I agree with lol-taire in that I do love being female but I still feel seperate from other girls even though I can dress very feminine.
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maianess's picture

Before, I used to be really,

Before, I used to be really, really tomboy-y. It lessened a little bit each year. Then, my friends dragged me out to some store and bought me some tight jeans and lowcut shirts. And basically, my wardrobe is changed. And I'm not really girly or anything, and I despise pink and frilly and principle and think makeup and pierced ears are a hassle, but a lot of the time, I like my feminintiy. But yeah, I do act more lke a guy than a lot of other girls I know. But that's not saying very much, because I know some pretty damn girly girls. And, like, of my really close friends that I'm comparing myself to, two of the girlier ones are bi, so........

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Teiraa's picture

Judging a book

I don't follow that sterotype... yet. I still act like your typical teenage boy. I wish I could dress and act as the opposite gender, but I'm not even close to being out yet. I like cute things, I cook well, I always compliment people on clothes, and I love to wear clothes with colors, not just the boyish blue and khaki clothing. I guess that's why I hate it when I'm made to wear a business suit, it's so constricting.

So I guess you just can't follow a stereotype. I may be feminine on the inside, but actually I seem fairly masculine to other people, despite the things I like and do. I don't think I know a person in the world who could have guessed I am transgender. My own mom and dad were shocked when I told them. Then again, it's just as surprising to me, because though I "appear" masculine, I don't do anything to support it. There's moral to my comment somewhere, but I lost it. Oh well.

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Imstillhere's picture

What everyone else said lol

What everyone else said lol really though I think everyones different(no duh) and just because someones a lesbian their going to be wearing flannel and birkenstocks. But some gay women do. Basically I think there is way too much stereotyping because frankly i know a few straight guys that act more feminine than some gay guys i know XD its just your personality/fashion choice/ etc it doesnt matter if your gay, bi, trans, or straight. Yet there seems to be more masculine women being actracted to women. That isnt always the case though. So to answer your question, no its not a myth per se just another big lovely stereotype thrown at us.

Adam A's picture


i think there's a little bit of truth to every myth isn't there? i don't think it's something that we should worry about though, just do what you wana do, behave the way you want to behave.
as for moi, i change my 'gayness' to fit different situations....i can be a light footed mo fo queen or a heavy dreary mother fucker MAN!!!

Morgan's picture

True for me

I go for sheer practicallity in 90% of what I do. Cost effectiveness, and all that. Also, being as close to as completely as self-sovereign, low maintenance, and independent as possible. More of a statistical dude thing, I think.

kartovla's picture

gender is different than

gender is different than sex: sex is your biological identification, gender is a social set of behaviours and standards that one can conform to. sex is having the girl parts, gender is fitting the girl expectations/gender roles.
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milk-tea's picture

hmm... i feel very half and

i feel very half and half, torn between the male and female sex.
i still look very, very feminine, but i dress sorta andro. *shrugs*

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Riku's picture

Some days I feel girly, some

Some days I feel girly, some days I feel boyish. Some days I feel both, or neither. I wear boys jeans and oversized shirts not because I want to look like a boy, but because I want to look childish. (And less like a girl.) And sometimes people tell me that I'm a tomboy, but I actually think of myself more like a girlish boy than a boyish girl... If that makes sense at all.

But the whole stereotype thing is just that, stereotype. The assumptions come from somewhere, but that doesn't mean it's always true.

the mouse that roared's picture

I agree with what everyone

I agree with what everyone else said. The gay community, partially because of this stereotype, is more exposed to gender bending than the straight community. There's more permission to play around with it. There's even an expectation to fit heterosexual gender roles in queer relationships, so it's not even as unconventional as it may seem. At the same time, this stereotype has allowed queer theory and androgyny to come to light more recently. Of course there is a huge spectrum of gender identification with queers and straights, but queers have more permission to question it than straights do.

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