And so I came to Oasis..a year on

the ghost's picture

I am now a whole year on Oasis.I decided to mark the event with a journal entry.It seems kind of crazy that it is a whole year since I stumbled accross this site,and quickly joined because I needed some help.I was in a mad panic because I had somehow managed to stumble into a realtionship with a guy that I really did not want to be in.I was horribly paranoid people would guess I was gay if I broke up with him,and I was in a mess of confusion about whether or not I am actually gay.
A year on I have realised that sexuality is not just black and white,and plenty of people go through that horrible questioning phase.I have learned that it is fine to just go with the flow and be with whoever I am attracted to.Which in my case is mostly girls.I am now so much more comfortable with that,and have even come out to two friends.What a difference a year makes eh?
I sometimes wonder where I would be if I hadn't found this site.I don't want to be all dramatic,but seriously,finding this place and reading through so much stuff I could identify with was like that final bit of confirmation that I needed to know that I am definitly not straight.It may seem niaeve but I honestly thought if a person was gay they just knew..none of this confusion,unsureness or questioning stuff.I thought it was black and white.Without this site I think I would be still struggling to sort things out in my own head and way to afraid to talk to anyone.Its a scary thought.So yeah *Hi Five* and much love for Oasis.
I wonder where I'll be at this time next year...

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raining men's picture

Happy anniversary

Happy anniversary man, always glad to have you

"Sexual intercourse began in nineteen sixty-three (which was rather too late for me)"

pomegranate's picture

i second the happy anniversary

and i know what you mean about oasis. it's really helped me too. like you, i thought if you were gay you pretty much just knew, and before joining, i felt like a big freak for being so unsure. now i know i am just fine, dandy, and NORMAL for being attracted to whomever i find myself attracted to. and like you, i have also come out to a couple friends. Hell, i've even come out to my mom since joining this site! the confidence i gained here has really helped me with the whole coming out process

ForeverEndedToday's picture

Happy anniversary! Congrats

Happy anniversary! Congrats on realizing that things aren't all black and white.

Toph's picture

Aw, so cute :) Happy

Aw, so cute :) Happy Anniversary!

~May the spirits guide your every move...to assure you please her in all the right places XD

Toph's picture

Aw, so cute :) Happy

Aw, so cute :) Happy Anniversary!

~May the spirits guide your every move...to assure you please her in all the right places XD

the ghost's picture

Thanks guys!!

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt