Gay and Single... Forever?: Book Review

by underdarkness

Gay and Single...Forever?: 10 Things Every Gay Guy Looking for Love (and Not Finding It) Needs to Know

What exactly is this book? Well, it's a book with a rather lengthy title. Other than that, it's exactly what you think it is; advice on dating... and coincidently, not dating if you don't want to. In a world where single gay men are the new "pariahs," gay men tend to feel guilty when they are alone.

"Being gay and single is the new smoking," playwright Paul Rudnick has said. "It won't be socially acceptable anymore, and you will have to go outside."

Though I cannot say that I enjoyed reading this book as much as I would have if I were reading, say... Star Wars, or something more suitable for an eighteen year old, I must say that it was incredibly methodical and detailed. Steven Bereznai mixes a gripping social commentary brilliantly with a guide to a gay man's love life... or lack thereof. With touches of humor and lightheartedness throughout, the book details why not dating is okay if you choose not to rely upon a partner. The first chapter is appropriately titled, "Gay is good--being gay and single used to be, too." The imperative words here are "used to be."

Though I've never faced any of the issues that Bereznai goes over in his book, I certainly appreciate the matter at hand and will be sure to read this book again once I'm a tad bit older.

Through and through, this book is for the gay man who wishes to stay single. I would recommend this book to any gay man who is feeling guilt over not being in a relationship. Think back to your roots and follow the key plan that the gay community has been trying to illustrate since the beginning of our cause; just be yourself, whatever that may be, and don't let even one damn "naysayer" tell you that you have to be otherwise.


Duncan's picture


Hahaha! we have that book @ my Gay and Lesbian centre!

Courage is contagious... be strong, and soon you won't be standing alone.