Having a ear ring on your right ear means your gay?

shadow fire's picture

I know the ear you wear your ear rings on doesn't MEAN your gay. I heard this when I was younger and thus have a ear ring on my left ear. I'm just wondering if the gay community uses ear rings on the right ear to identify if another person is gay. I'm not really in the gay community (at all) yet because I live in a hickish small city (no gay bars or anything) and I'm not sure if there even is a gay community (no GLA in my school either) so I don't really know these things. And I just came out of the closet this year. I'm hoping to be more part of the gay community when I move out in 2 years and go to Vancouver. Anyways back on topic, do gays use ear rings as an identification of any sort? and if not is there anything we use to identify each other without doing anything that would be obvious to often homophobic heterosexuals?

nydolls1973's picture

So far I haven't seen anyone

So far I haven't seen anyone do that.
I really don't think there's anything except rainbow paraphenalia, but that's not very subtle. Plus they decided to exploit it, at least where I live, and I just say no.
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Chizuna san's picture

Do you mean a "GSA"

Do you mean a "GSA" (Gay-Straight Alliance)?

shadow fire's picture

Damn.

I was hoping there would be some subtle way of identifying. I saw this really hot guy at the movie theater who had ear rings on both ears and I was hoping hes gay (not that it really matters since I'm in a relationship, but still)

Yep, I mean a GSA. I'm not very familiar with GSA's (for the obvious reason that there absent in my school) so I mix up the acronym quite a bit.

gaynow's picture

Huh. 'GLA.' Gay

Huh. 'GLA.' Gay Laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah Alliance, then?

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wilma wonka's picture

hmmmmm gay lesbian alliance?

similar to a GSA except it focuses on stuff that only pertains to gays/lesbians not straights, transgender people, bisexuals, etc. When I first read it that's what I thought it meant and that there really were such things.

"gay: cheerful and lighthearted; merry." - The American Heritage Dictionary.

gaynow's picture

Oh. L stands for Lesbian.

Oh. L stands for Lesbian. Riiiiiight.... heh heh...

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whateversexual_llama's picture

I have an earring on my

I have an earring on my right ear... I think I picked my right ear for the ring for two reasons: one, because I like the silly joke about right ear meaning gay, and two, because I sleep on my left side.

Whatever I did, I didn't do it.

my three wheeler rox's picture

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Someone told me that too cuz I have 3 in my right ear and one in my left, and they were like "oh you got your queer ear pierced again"

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haNa's picture

hm...

i think the thing about that is that (homophobic) straight people are gonna thing it means your gay, while gay people probably aren't gonna think twice about it.

so i'd give it a thimbs down.

~haNa

patnelsonchilds's picture

Once Upon A Time (before

Once Upon A Time (before most of you were born) the earring thing was a big deal. As with other such identifiers, though, it has gone the way of the dinosaurs and The X Files. These days, if you don't see a pink triangle or a rainbow flag, you just have to ask (or him them to look at their nails - LOL).

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dykehalo's picture

My friends and i do the nail

My friends and i do the nail thing all the time.. or we ask to look at their hand to see the finger length and stuff.
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Adam A's picture

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shadow fire's picture

How big of a deal was it?

How big of a deal was it? the earring thing?

I'm thinking I'm probably going to get my right ear pierced then just swap ears for the ring back and forth.

patnelsonchilds's picture

Well, back in my teen years,

Well, back in my teen years, a teenage boy would never get his right ear pierced. People really would assume you were gay if you did. That didn't really last too long. By the time the 90s rolled around, guys were getting both of them done, and the significance more or less disappeared.

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Riku's picture

That's funny. I have both

That's funny. I have both ears pierced but I don't wear earrings in my left ear most of the time because it gets sore. So it's always just my right ear.

I don't think most people would notice though.. Unless you're wearing a pink triangle or a rainbow on that ear. XD

shadow fire's picture

I'm sure not too many people

I'm sure not too many people would notice. But hopefully it could at least hint another homosexual that I'm gay. Ha, I would look so ugly with a pink triangle earring.

gaynow's picture

What if you wore pink

What if you wore pink triangles/rainbows in only your left ear, or in both ears? Would that make you straight, regardless of the gayness of your earings? Yeargh, I'm confused! *runs around in circles*

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ForeverEndedToday's picture

Gay people tend to put out

Gay people tend to put out gay vibes. Even the most masculine of gay/bisexual men or the most femme of lesbian/bisexual women. All you have to do is just read into the vibes they put out. I have an industrial bar in my right ear ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Industrial_piercing ) because I had a choice of either right or left and I thought the whole thing was hilarious so I decided to go "gayer" and put it in my right. I don't think the whole earing thing has any meaning anymore.
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patnelsonchilds's picture

If you want to display gay,

If you want to display gay, the easiest thing nowadays is to just wear a rainbow pin. There really are no secret signals anymore. As far as vibes go, I find that I can spot people of my own generation easily, but not so much with younger people. I think it's because kids are so different stylewise anyway. Maybe your gaydar works on one another, but mine's pretty much jammed by kids your age. Fortunately, kids your age are NOT on my menu, so no harm done.

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shadow fire's picture

Wearing a rainbow pin to a

Wearing a rainbow pin to a high school sounds kind of....painful.

As for gaydar, well there are only a couple of openly gay guys in my school that I (sort of) know. One of them is a large gay stereotype so I could tell right away he was gay, and the other guy is kind of a tier between a stereotype and average in mannerisms and I thought he was gay and he ended up being gay. But I really don't know if I have much of a gaydar because I haven't really met much gay people (at all) I also don't think I put out a gay vibe, my friend said I'm one of the LAST people she would think was gay.

dykehalo's picture

or a pride / rainbow

or a pride / rainbow bracelet.. lol that's my "secret signal" and i tell my dad "I just like that colors.. and besides it was "free" (even though i paid 1 buck for it but shh.. what he doesn't know can't hurt him). "~~~Fear is only a verb if you let it be.. don't you dare let go of my hand~~~

shadow fire's picture

Oooo

I want/wanted to get a rainbow bracelet but I don't know where I would get one. I don't think my parents would allow me to buy one though, they would make an excuse saying there afraid of gay bashers or something.

oldfoxbob's picture

Ha ha

Take it from the old man here, That used to be true,,,right ear ment gay...but any more...na...means nothing. I know gays and str8's who have at least ten studs in each ear, as well as other places too...lol...but it no longer means anything like that.
It did...I had my right ear pierced yrs ago. still do and its the only one too....I was at a party with my boss and his family when his 14 yr old son came up to me and was talking to me when he noticed the ear. He said you know that means your gay...I said Yep,,,his mouth just hit the floor,,he took a step back...and said whoa...thats cool....and we kept on talking...so it used to mean that.

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rowie's picture

no one ever knows which ear

no one ever knows which ear it is anymore. im a girl but i only have one ear pierced and it just so happens to be my right i wasnt intentional i just sleep on my left side! i dont think ear piercing is a very good way to identify yourself to others as gay.

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wilma wonka's picture

read something on oasis about that

A while ago I found a forum that was trying to establish a way for lesbians/bi girls to identify eachother without heterosexuals knowing. You were supposed to tie a purple string around your wrist. I don't really remember what exactly the forum said. I still don't have purple string around my wrist because I figured no one knew about it so why bother. I don't know about anything like that for boys. You could try tying a purple string around your wrist.

"gay: cheerful and lighthearted; merry." - The American Heritage Dictionary.

adidaswithfems's picture

purple string

i've heard of the purple string on a website called downelink. i'm a lesbian. i think the purple string is cool. i think i'm going to adopt one. yet i like fem women and its hard sometimes to tell who is gay and who is not. we should all post it on blogs for all gay people to wear purple strings and the str8 people would never get it :) everyone knows the rainbow.... i'm just not trying to wear a rainbow pin or bracelet to work.

but i'm a cheerleader.... i just saw that movie this week. i'm so late. "straight is great" i loved that tshirt. too funny lol

Disney's picture

I heard about the earing

I heard about the earing thing at a young age I guess, or just picked it up hmm. Actually I don't remember anyone actually saying : earing on boy may = gay so hmm. And schoolmates of mine have said it jokingly to laid back male teachers or uncles/brothers so I'm a bit surprised that some of us have seemingly picked it up without it being pointed out.

My cousins do the nail thing to other male cousins every once in a while and nails and gays have an association but what EXACTLY is the indicator for a gay guy based on how they look at their nails? And don't say 'look at your own nails!' because I look at them palm-down or palm-up but nails bent down at me and off-hand couldn't say which I'd do first!

I've read up about the whole bandanna back-pocket signal thing though haha. They make a lot of sense and as exuberant as I can be sometimes, I think a bandanna saying what sexual relations I want tonight with a club-goer might be nifty sometimes... were I to be in that sort of position haha.

1stTeeka's picture

lol, i've heard crazy things

lol, i've heard crazy things like that before, i heard that if you wear a watch on your right arm it means you gay *looks at right arm* OMG theres watch!
um i've heard that if your hair curls counter clockwise your gay, that one made me laugh cause my hair does both. I want to get my right ear pierced, but thats cause i'm right handed

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shadow fire's picture

I heard there was some

I heard there was some scientific basis for that along with the ring finger being longer then the pointer on gay men and the pointer being longer on lesbians.

1stTeeka's picture

scientific

thats what i heard, but then there was stuff like if your left handed and other crazy stuff

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shadow fire's picture

I never heard

the left handed stuff. Just the hair and the finger.

joemondragon's picture

I don't think that's true

I don't think that's true, sorry. My middle finger is longer than both all my ther fingers. Probably from so much use, haha.

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shadow fire's picture

Well.

I'm not saying the article and other research is correct but its worth noting that middle fingers are larger for everyone and I was rererring to the index and ring finger.

gaynow's picture

I thought that if your ring

I thought that if your ring finger was longer than your pointer, you were a lesbian. At least, that's what The L Word told me. AND WHY WOULD THE L WORD LIEEEE????

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shadow fire's picture

Ha ha.

I'm going to have to look this up again, I could be incorrect.

http://www.slate.com/default.aspx?id=1004978

Well this is true for me. My ring finger is almost an inch longer then my index finger.

joemondragon's picture

Cool. All I need to do is

Cool. All I need to do is check my crushes fingers. The trick is how to get him to show me his hand...

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utter_insanity's picture

I don't know why it would

I don't know why it would lie, but on my left hand, my ring finger and pointer finger are the same size. Then on my right, my ring finger is just a tiiiiiiny bit taller than my pointer. Does this mean I'm not a lesbian? O.o


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shadow fire's picture

Well actually.

For lesbians the index fingers are suppose to be bigger.

But this should all be taken with a grain of salt.

TheYOT's picture

Earing...

I have actually always wondered why people think men that wear earings in their right ear are gay, until I spoke with a friend the other day...

I don't know the extent of the truth of this story, but here goes: in the olden day, drug dealers would wear an earing in the left ear, so people who were interested in purchasing drugs could identify them. The same way drug dealers wore an earing in the left ear, gay men would wear one in the right ear. This served as means of identification.

Since it is not necessary to "hide" being gay, people don't generally use this as a method of identification, but most of the population from the older generation still identify with the old meaning of this identification method. Hope this shed some light on things. :)

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Adam A's picture

meow

so in the olden day, if you were a perfectly straight law-abiding citizen, and you wanted to wear an earring coz you thought it would look cool, you'd be screwed!

lamb_da's picture

there's a gay teacher at my

there's a gay teacher at my school and he wears an earring in his left ear...:/

You're so beautiful, you made me forget my pick up line. ;)