Help a sister out, COMING OUT TO PARENTS article

Orah's picture

Hey guys, I write for a comprehensive sex ed magazine called Sex, Etc. I'm writing an article on coming out to parents.

I wanted to get some quotes from teens.

If you would like to send a short quote about either

a) Your experience telling your parents or
b) Advice to other teens

Please send it to me with your full name (your full name does not have to be printed) age and city/state/country.

I really do need this ASAP so please don't hesitate. Anything you write would be wonderful!

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jeff's picture

Hmmm...

"The most interesting thing to me is how much thought teens put into planning their coming out, and making it flow as part of a conversation. Like they'll plan to bring up a gay political topic, casually talk about a gay friend, or just get on a topic of dating in general, all to steer things toward the big coming out moment. But if a parent is going to be blindsided by this revelation, all of this prep work is needless. It will forever be 'He just told me he's gay,' or 'She just came right out and said it.' You don't really get extra points for compelling narrative flow, but it's always cute to see people plan it that way nonetheless. So, my advice is 'just say it,' it's all they're going to remember about the moment anyway."
-- Jeff Walsh, founder of Oasis Journals, an online community site for LGBT youth.

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JusticeGirl's picture

I recently came out to my

I recently came out to my close friends and family, and it was the biggest releif i had ever felt. Suddenly my friends were looking at me strangely and my mom and I were a little seperated, but non of that could replace the liberation that I was feeling. And, much to my good fortune, everything did smooth out.

My friends and family love me, and that didin't change with comming out. I think they were mostly in shock, and coulden't understand why they haden't figured it out earlier. Us lesbians are master actors when it comes to keeping it hidden- it's a wonder we can even tell eachother apart.

In any event, as much as I HATE it when people tell me this, time does help. I hate waiting and patience has never been my strong point, but people adapt. This didin't mean that I told them and suddenly a week later it was better, i had to fight to keep my friends. I told them our friendship was too good, and that we loved eachother too much to give up on us. I told them i would give them all the time they need, and all the space they wanted, but i was still going to be here waiting. And if they were willing to try and accept it then i would wait for as long as they needed. Well it worked, and even now we still have our odd moments, but every day my friends and I become closer- if not even closer now- then before.

I wish good luck to everyone comming out, and I hope they get the liberation and understanding that I felt

Stephanie, 16yr Vancouver BC Canada
(if you do take anything preferably don't use my full name just for privacy issues)

jeff's picture

Hmm..

I just zapped your last name on your post, since Google grabbing this post would be a bigger privacy issue than it appearing in that magazine, most likely.

If Orah needs it for some housekeeping thing at the magazine, she will contact you for it, etc.

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"Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there." -- Josh Billings.

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Orah's picture

My editor said I don't need

My editor said I don't need the last name, it's all good. Thanks Jeff
And thank you every one else.