My Parents

underage_thinker's picture

I came out to my parents yesterday. It was weird, I didn't feel any different, just more like myself. I feel like I can talk to them now, and not feel uncomfortable pretending to be someone I'm not. I came out to them yesterday mainly because I wanted to go to a queer support group called Outlet and I needed a ride. My parents are divorced, and it was my night at my dad's house. I was waiting around after I went to my shrink, and before we could pick my sister up from soccer practice. I was really nervous when I asked my dad if he could take me to Outlet. He asked what it was, and I said, "It's a support group for queer teens." He just looked at me and then said, well, if you really want to go, I'll take you. This was amazing, as he never wants to drive anywhere extra, but I guess he was just grateful that I was being honest with him. We talked about driving arrangements and it seemed to make more sense for my mom to pick me up afterwards, so I called her. We went through the same awkward questions and explanations. At first she seemed surprised, but she agreed to pick me up. In the end, my dad picked me up, but I'm glad I called her. WE picked p my sister from soccer practice, then went to drop me off. She kept asking what it was that I was going to, and I tried avoiding the question. After a while, she just stopped asking. I knew a lot of people at Outlet from school ( I went to the GSA meeting last week). And I had a lot of fun hanging out with other queer people and playing a game called move your ass. I went to my mom's house after school today, and she called me before she got home. She told me that she had known since I was 8 years old and told her that I had a crush on my best friend. Then, when I was 9, I told her that I wanted to marry that same friend. I don't actually remember any of this, but I'm glad she wasn't surprised. Both my parents are really supportive, as well as my step-dad, who is one of the nicest men on this earth. I don't intend for my sister, step-mom or step-mom's daughter to find out any time soon. I feel like i can be myself now, which I haven't really felt since I was 6 years old.

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jeff's picture

Hmm...

I'd imagine your step-mom will know, seeing as your parents seemed to already know before you told them anyway, probably came up by now and I imagine he'd mention to her that you told him, etc.

Seems to be a timeline discrepancy. You say you told your mom you had a crush on a girl at 8, and wanted to marry her at 9, which leaves me to think that you weren't yourself at some point after 9, not 6. :-)

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gaynow's picture

Welcome!

Hey! First of all, welcome to Oasis (I haven't seen you around... and since I'm a stalker, I went and checked your profile... ^^'') Congrats on coming out to your parents, though. That's always hard, and it's great that they took it well. ^^

...And what exactly does "Move Your Ass" entail?

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underage_thinker's picture

Well, My parents got

Well, My parents got divorced when I was 6, but I always felt like I was pretending to be someone I wasn't. "Move Your Ass" is kind of like musical chairs, but one person stands in the middle and says, "move your ass if you...." Then whoever has done that or is that way, gets out of their chair and finds another one. There is one person left i the middle, who says, "move your ass" next. It's really fun and it took up about an hour.