I am too needy, and need help before I destroy myself and this relationship

frizzfro45's picture

I am too clingy with my girlfriend. I know this, and I am afraid of it affecting anything more than it already has. I know I need to back off and not care so much, not be so needy of her. I have always been clingy though, To just one person. Even from when I was little. I have this fear of rejection, failure, and being vulnerable. I have let her in more than any one, even my mom. I guess I just feel so vulnerable and needy, that I become so attached. She loves me, and I love her to death and we love spending time with eachother, but I get too clingy, emotionally, and it hurts her. I hate hurting her.
I guess in short I just need help. I need advice. I need someone to help me become less clingy. I get jealous because She has a life outside of me, and I have none. The only reason I am even online at 7 on a saturday night is because she's hanging out with other people, who we were both going to hang out with tonight. I know, and understand that she gets bored doing the same thing everynight, driving aroun our small town, so do I, but why can't I hang out with her and the others, why am I excluded like I always have been. This is just really hard right now, I mean our 1 year is on monday.


Fiona Rosge's picture

i cant really give you

i cant really give you advise only because im exactly like you. i mean im not in a relationship but even if my friends im like that. i always have been, clingy and needy and all that. so i cant really give you advise since i do the same things. sry
I used to be scared of
Letting someone in
But it gets so lonely
Being on my own
No one to talk to
And no one to hold me
I'm not always strong
Oh, I need you here
Are you listening?