Gay indifference

Chizuna san's picture

"Hmm, I didn't even know you were a lesbian, no one ever told me."
- said by my cousin Stephen in the cafeteria at the U of A hospital

Ok, for starters, the guys in my (mom's side of the) family don't gossip much. But seriously, who cares? He doesn't, and that's cool. I ABHOR making a fuss about it. I don't "look gay" and I'm perfectly goddamn fine with not yelling it to the damn world. I mean, yay, I date girls, it's not something to make a fuss about. Gay pride? Gay indifference.

I'm not ashamed, I'm happy with being gay. But being flamboyant? Not my style. Cause really, who honestly cares? Be happy I'm dating a good person, not avidly excited to discuss what it's "like to, you know, date other chicks." That just ain't my scene, people.

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jeff's picture

Err...

Not sure why you think flamboyant is an affectation, but you are living as a proper restrained gay or somesuch.

I think people who get more flamboyant when they come out are not adding a new personality, but finally being who they always were, and not trying to hide that part of them anymore. So, you are gay and don't want to act in a different way, not discuss who you are with people, etc., that's all fine (if a bit premature on a social acceptance level).

But I disagree that other people are trying to "look gay," etc., when they are as entitled to be themselves as you are, albeit differently defined.

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electricity's picture

Definetely. I'm as

Definetely. I'm as flamboyant as ever now that I'm out. I'm completely open. It's really like a volcano that's been inactive for 16 years and has now just erupted and won't stop flowing over.

Chizuna san's picture

I realize how immature my

I realize how immature my rant sounded. I'm perfectly content with everything, I'd just like to be able to talk more causally about it with other people, instead of everyone's eyebrows raising when I say I'm taking my girl to dinner on Saturday. Am I making sense here?

jeff's picture

Eh...

Still sounds like discomfort to me. You want homosexuality to be as boring and accepted as heterosexuality... sadly, it isn't. The way it gets boring is if you do have those conversations, do talk about it, etc., so that everyone in your circle is bored with it. If you stay quiet about it, then when you rarely mention it, it will be a bigger deal than you want. So, sort of an endless loop.

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Chizuna san's picture

I don't want it to be

I don't want it to be boring, I just don't want the gender of my date to be the issue. Go ahead, grill me on anything about them, but the "wait a sec...it's a GIRL?" reaction is not what I'm looking for.