Otterly's picture

So guess what, guys? I think I might have lost my mind.
This is my first time posting here, so sorry that it has to be ranting, but... Whatcha gonna do?

So here's what's up: I've been bi for a long time. Then, I started calling myself pan. Now, I'm thinking I'm more of a lesbian. But, I'm kind of in love with a guy, but for personality rather than sex - I don't want a relationship with him, because that would just be stupid and pointless for many, many reasons... And, if that's not confusing enough, I just managed to get myself into a friends-with-benefits situation with my ex-girlfriend.

I don't know how this happened.

I don't know what's going to happen. Kind of confused, really. I do not want a relationship. I am in a very nice free floating place with no commitments, and I do NOT want any... but I mean, hormones, they're still a-raging, so somehow I ended up in this 'more than friends' situation. We're not in love, and we're not dating, but we are... doing other stuff? How crazy is this? I don't have a moral problem with it or anything, but I just am not entirely sure what the hell I'm doing. Any thoughts?


jeff's picture


As long as you're both on the same page, that can work, as long as it doesn't hit a point where it is preventing you from pursuing other interests.

As for the labeling, umm, stop. I think you've already found that jumping from one label to the next is not serving you in any positive way. Just be you, and remove any barriers or restrictions on what that means. You're allowed to just experience life without trying to define it in advance.

Oh, and welcome to the site.


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