In the Box

Shebang84's picture

I'm confused tonight. I've sorta always known that I wasn't quite normal sexuality-wise, and I've been fine with that. I'm pretty sure that my family is accepting and as far as I know, none of them have any issues about sexuality. So, I always thought that coming out would be easy for me. I chose tonight, just cuz I think that'd be a good idea, and my best friend just came out to her parents. I hate feeling like there's a whole part of me I can never talk about. But now that I'm just about to take the plunge, I'm afraid. I'm scared that they won't feel the same about me, that they'll be upset, or that they'll cut me off from my friend. I'm just so afraid that something will go wrong. And I don't even know how to start.


Neutrina's picture

Well, to start with, you can

Well, to start with, you can test the waters.
Like...bring up the CA supreme court decision over dinner, or something. See how they feel about gay rights in general. If they're supportive, you can just casually say, "you know, I'm bisexual" or "Yeah, I'm really happy about it, maybe I'll end up in one of those couples". Or, if you want to just get it over with, "Hey! Great news! I'm bi!" If they come off as homophobic, you might want to hold off.
And, I think Jeff said this once, that they'll react according to how you deliver. So, if there's this big build up, and you deliver it like the world just ended, they'll probably react worse than if you are really casual and matter-of-fact.
Oh, and do remember, you've had your whole life to realize this, but they haven't. So give them time; even if they react negatively at first, they'll probably come around.
But if they've never had any issues with sexuality, you're probably in the clear.

"She's a mystery
She's too much for me
But I keep coming back for more
She's just the girl I'm looking for"
-The Click Five "Just the Girl"