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runningupthefreeway's picture

I know they are doing what they feel is right. And I know to them gay marriage is something they want to fight against just as much as gay people want to fight for it. It's just.... So sad that people can't reconcile their views more easily. But then again I wouldn't want to change my views so....

This was all brought up by a door to door supporter of proposition 8. I tried to gently tell him that I'm not interested but he kept talking, very polite mind you, but he kept talking and he said " this is not a discriminatory measure. we realize thats its wrong to persecute gays, gays have full rights, its illegal not to give them full rights. I fully support civil unions." etc. etc. thats not the best paraphrase of what he said , i liked him better for what he said, but basically yeah. and I know to people like him, to him marriage is a devout thing, a holy thing and I can see why people like him want marriage to have its name reserved, for gay people to have civil unions. And he was so nice....

but can't he see to me not being able to call my marriage for what it was would just be as hurtful to me? How by making marriage a government institution we have to make it free from religion?

How painful just talking to him was? Because he was nice.. and just by being equal I damage and hurt his beliefs like he's hurting my freedom right now. And whatever we do is going to hurt somebody.

And then my sister comes up from behind me, says over me "sorry we are really not interested" and closes the door and mutters "asshat"
and goes back to watching t.v.

If only it was that simple. I don't know...

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wild-blue-yonder's picture

I admire you for

I admire you for understanding where he's coming from and not automatically shutting him out, even though that's easier. I know, it's always hard when they're so... well-meaning. That doesn't mean they're right, but it makes you want to consider their argument. I think I'd actually like to talk to someone like him one-on-one, politely and seriously, just to see how "the others" think about things like this...