A little help please.

the ghost's picture

*Ok this is going to be really long but someone please help me I am desperate.*

Ok I am not too sure where to begin with this one, but I do know I need some advice and help.As I have posted a lot in my journals lately I have been having a lot of problems with my sister and my bro-in-law.The thing is he is suffering from a form of anxiety disorder and has been recieving treatment and taking tablets for it.

When he first started to deal with it he did talk to me about it quite a bit. I went to a lot of trouble to help him and gave him a lot of my time. But even though he has been seeing a therapist his problems began to encroach on my life.He started to get really obsessive about me and things going on with me.After some pretty big arguments with both him and my sister, I told both of them I needed some space from them.

Their problems somehow started to consume what was going on in my own life and I could not cope with it anymore.I asked them for a couple of weeks space but he kept coming back to me and wouldn't leave me alone. I told him I had my own problems I needed to sort out and to please give me some space.

A few weeks passed and I had not been in contact with him, though I had been talking to my sister a little bit.That brings me up to this week really. It has been roughly two weeks since I told him I needed a couple of weeks break from.But he started emailing me and stuff again this week. I haven't really felt ready to talk to him yet and so just kept being non-responsive to him. That was until yesterday.He sent me this really long email saying how much he wanted to talk to me and wants to help me and blah blah blah. I really just want him to go away.It was at this point I did something very stupid.

I emailed him back and basically told him everything I have had going on lately including being gay.I really wish I didn't do that.Nobody else in my family know's I am gay and he has taken it that he is super-privilage because he knows.When in reality I told him about all my shit so he could get the message that I had my own life and problems and to leave me alone.He emailed me back after I told him and he seemed normal and fine.

However he text me at like 4.30 in the morning saying we had to meet up as soon as possible in secret without my sister knowing. I asked him why...and he said to talk about me being gay and went on about how huge it is.This is not what I want at all and I wish I never told him.I text him back and said there was no need to talk about and no it's not a huge deal and basicly just leave it at that.So he answered with ok.

When I got home tonight, he and my sister were at my house and I felt so awkward.I just want him to get out of my life.He is encroaching on every part of it and I don't want him in it.

I don't know what to do.Someone please help me.

sugarmagnolia's picture

are your parents aware at

are your parents aware at all of what's going on? maybe they or another trusted adult can try and provide your brother more support so that he's not leaning on you as much. maybe you can keep your phone on silent while you're sleeping so that he's not bothering you in the middle of the night. is there a community center or somewhere at school where you can hang out if you know they're going to be at the house? Hopefully as his treatment continues he'll get better and look to rely on you less. Does your sister know how demanding he's been on you? it sounds as though he's more of the problem than she is, maybe she can give you warning before they come over. hang in there, good luck.

"freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose"

the ghost's picture

Thank you for your

Thank you for your response.I am actually an adult myself, and I have been talking to some friends about him.All of whom advised me to get the hell away from him.It is far easier said than done though.My parents have no idea what is going on as I am afraid it will cause more trouble.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt

the mouse that roared's picture


It's sketchy. Leave him alone, get away. Maybe let your sister know what's going on, maybe come out to her so he has a little less power over you, but it sounds like he's a dangerous guy to stay around.

No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless; there is too much work to do.--Dorothy Day