<3 I love you Vince

RegretShouldntExist's picture

Heheh my boyfriend is awesome! His names Vince and i love him with all my heart. Hes so amazing. I dont think annyone is more perfect xD I would gladly marry him if i wasnt....well young lol. SO yeah just felt like posting this cuz i was bored and yeah.....

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jeff's picture

Hmm...

I "dated" a Vince once, sweet guy...

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

RegretShouldntExist's picture

lol wat was his last name?

lol wat was his last name? And y date in quotes?

jeff's picture

heh...

He lives outside Vancouver.

"Dated" because it was an online relationship, so not a real one.

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

RegretShouldntExist's picture

And is there something wrong

And is there something wrong with onlone relationships?

jeff's picture

Well...

I find there are only two situations where you can have a successful online relationship:
-- There is a game plan for when you will be together in the same location. So you meet, there's a connection, and you decide to go for it. In less than a year (or slightly longer with some visits), there is a plan for someone to move where the other lives, or both to move somewhere else (to the same university, perhaps).
-- You were a couple, but have to spend time apart. So, you were dating in college, but your partner has to do their graduate work where you can't do yours, or you can't find work in your field there. In this case, you already have a relationship in place, and it's just managing the distance for a fixed period of time, or (with more frequent visits) a longer stretch of time.

Beyond that, there is a risk of online relationships shutting you down from pursuing people who are actually in your geographic location. The other problem is that without physical proximity, I feel that a lot of the person you "love" is fictional (in which case it *should* be easy to fall for them, you invented a good portion of them). You know a certain percentage of who the person is, but the stuff between those gaps is often guesswork. And the lack of face time never corrects these perceptions. Often, people who have long-term online-only relationships realize they have far less in common with the person, and when they do get together in person, it often crashes.

I think they fulfill a need, but do so by shutting you down for a real romance with someone in your actual life. I know I didn't guys in college who wanted to go out, etc., because I had a "boyfriend" that I'd never met 2,000+ miles away. It felt good having that connection, but when I met them years later, there was no spark there, and we didn't even hook up despite both being single, heh.

So, yeah, not a fan. It's easy to say why is a problem if I have nothing else going on in my real life, but then a lot of people consider themselves off the market, so start missing people with whom they can have true intimacy and a deep connection.

I know people who have had successful online starts to relationships, but physical proximity was almost always removed quickly as an obstacle.

Jase Wells, who coded the original 1995 version of Oasis, tells his story of online relationshipping here: http://www.jasewells.com/Home/Meeting_Michael.html

But they meet in person two months after they meet online, therefore following the first rule. :-)

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

RegretShouldntExist's picture

....

Well....ok hes an online bf.......but erm....yeah. heh. but i did find out he may move close to me. Like.....an hour away instead of......8 ish lol. Hes in New York somewhere and Im in Maryland somewhere lol. So he may move here. That would be amazing. And......well he says that im his dream guy and he will never leave me unless i ask. So...obviously i wont. And he says sweet things and yeah.......
Life....So complicated ya know?