Double Dipping

Zephyr's picture

Eh. So yesterday was 4/20. Not only "National Pot Smoking Day" --- which personally I think is bullshit. If you are going to smoke it, just do it, but yesterday was also the 10th anniversary of Columbine. Not like it's a good thing to celebrate. But.. it's history. So we talked about in psychology and I thought it would be an interesting tid bit to incorporate for those that didn't know/forgot.

I've been trying to get my ex to stop smoking pot. I don't like it. We are supposed to be friends, but she doesn't treat me like I have any say, I get it, I do. But. It isn't just me that has a problem with it. And she really started smoking a lot after she and I broke up because I don't like it. It's all she talks about. She's an addict.

I'm good friends with friends of her mom's. Weird. I know. But I threatened to tell them if she didn't stop. But I don't think that she will actually stop. But it did make her sit up and pay attention. Her excuse is that she has nothing else to do but smoke. Even though all her energy is put into .. finding it. And a time to do it. Not that she's busy, but she has to find a place.. and a way for her mom not to find out. So I told her that anything was better than smoking and being an addict. Because she really wants to have kids and shit like that. And I'm sorry, but that just doesn't sound like a good plan, being a pot head-dead-beat mom. Not in my books. So I kind of screamed at her. And her other friend agreed and won't drive her around to get it. Which is awesome.

And I haven't really talked to that guy. We have that one class together. And I usually see him before I go to gym. But I didn't. Which speaking of gym... apparently this guy was totally checking me out. And I wasn't paying attention. o_O Weird. 'Cause I had to hear from it from someone across the room. *facepalm*

Not much else besides my photography is kicking ass. I've been experimenting with adding colour. And it looks really good. So I'm really pleased. And no school Friday!


thinks's picture

I wish I was good at phtography...

Sounds like your good at it, where as I just got a handy digital. LOL
Sorry about the pot issues, glad you've got your head about you when it comes to that. Sounds like things are getting difficult for your ex to get her hands on it. Hope that works out.

jeff's picture


Trust me, potheads don't wait for April 20 to roll around. As for your friend, at a certain point, you have to let people do their thing. A lot of teenaged potheads are Summa Cum Laude college graduates. Everything is more fun when it's new. Also, you can't smoke your way into an addiction. Some people are naturally addicts and some people aren't. if she is, you can't stop her. If she isn't, it will sort itself out.

But if you become the constant, nagging presence in her life, she'll eventually just stop hanging out with you.

I don't think anyone was celebrating Columbine, just noting the anniversary.

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

perple's picture

I'm sorry, but I have to say

I'm sorry, but I have to say I completely disagree with you Jeff. Yeah, you can smoke/drink your way into an addiction. Obviously if you are predisposed, it's a hell of a lot harder to bail yourself out. If people had just given up on my uncle, who is a recovering alcoholic, he probably would have killed either himself or someone else by now.

jeff's picture


I don't think that's true. You can do it to the point where you have a dependency and would experience withdrawal symptoms, but it still isn't a chemical addiction where you have something triggered that you didn't know was there which compels you to consume that substance.

You have caffeine dependency, where the body rewards you for doing it, and gives you a headache if you stop. But I'd say that falls far shorter than someone who is chemically addicted to something.

Plus, if this person just started smoking pot, it's new and interesting, so they're apt to do more at that point. Most people level off or stop after that first wave, so I wouldn't think you need to be lecturing them at that point, or predicting dire futures for them based on a few weeks of "new toy" syndrome.

I don't think comparing this situation to recovering alcoholics is the same, but my guess is your uncle wants to stop but couldn't, which is the usual alcoholic thing. Whereas a teenaged pothead isn't reaching out for help or on a similar path yet. You have to be further along before you want that sort of help, and I don't think you can necessarily stop someone from doing something bad for them. It's not like this person hasn't heard about the dangers of marijuana, drugs, and supposed gateway drugs and such. This is informed consent.

"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis